Post # 1
We are having a Destination Wedding in Cabo, Mexico and we have all of our guest going on a Sunset Dinner Cruise with us the day before the wedding. Our travel agent suggested asking everyone to wear white and kaki which would make for a great group pic on the beach before the cruise departure. I love the idea and think its fun to add a little theme to the event but is it acceptable to ask people to wear a particular color(s) for the cruise?
If you do think it is okay, how would you word the question?
Post # 3
I would blame it on the travel agent!
“Wear all white and Khaki only….as per travel agent”
Post # 4
I think it’s a really fun idea, just be loose about it. I don’t own anything exactly white, but I have ivory, khaki, off white, beige. So say something to that effect.
Post # 5
I think you can always ask, but don’t be upset if people don’t follow it. My closet is full of color, and lots of it, so I wouldnt have anything in that category except casual khakis. I wouldn’t have anything nicer to wear to a dinner cruise, and i wouldnt go out and buy a new outfit after spending $$ to go to a Destination Wedding. Personally, I wouldn’t ask but you know your friends and family best. Also, i think it matters how many guests you are having. You’ll have better luck if you are only having a few people
Post # 6
Unless it’s a requirement to wear that in order to attend the wedding, I’d spread the idea by word of mouth. That way people don’t feel like they have to RSVP no if they don’t have the right colors (or feel obligated to spend money on an outfit if they don’t already have one in those colors). Plus, attire isn’t supposed to be mentioned on the invitation so the only other way to mention it is on a web site or via word of mouth.
Post # 7
Heres the thing, if you ask people to do it, and someone doesn’t, then who do you think will stand out in the pics?
Post # 8
Plus I think it’s a bit much to ask guests to bear the expenses to travel to your wedding, then dictate what they can and can’t wear. If they’re in the wedding party, sure, but for the regular guests, I think it’s overstepping the boundaries.
Personally I don’t have anything white other than my own wedding dress, and nothing khaki at all; and I know I’m not the only one with a primarily darker/richer color/nothing neutral wardrobe. I’d be kind of offended if I had to go buy a new outfit— especially if I’d already bought a new outfit with the intent of wearing it to the wedding.
Post # 9
Personally, I wouldn’t do it. The only khaki I own is stuff to wear to work, and I wouldn’t be thrilled about wearing my work attire to a sunset cruise. I would think especially many female guests would be planning to wear a cute sundress and might be annoyed about not being able to. I think when guests are traveling for your wedding, it’s nice to make it as easy as possible for them, and asking for such specific attire will stress guests out if they don’t already own something they like in those colors.
Post # 10
I love themey kind of stuff and excuse to buy a new outfit…I think it would be awesome to have everyone in white…but understand everyone elses point as well. But having a “White Party” with white decor and touches as well would be beautiful, and this can be their last chance to wear white before the wedding! I think hooking that into an invite is cute aswell.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t be crazy about a dress code for a non-wedding event. I also only own khaki as part of my work wardrobe and would be more apt to wear one of my resort outfits or maxi dresses. I agree with Americano, that if someone doesn’t participate in the suggested dresscode that they will stick out like a sore thumb.
Post # 12
What if you provided some tshirts or something like caps or flower leis for your guests to wear if you want a colour theme in some photos?
Post # 13
Yeah I probably wouldn’t join in especially since it is an event the night before the wedding. If it was a requirement and I didn’t feel comfortable I would probably skip the dinner which would suck.
I also think a lot of women especially curvier women would not choose white as a colour to wear!
Post # 14
Im not a fan, and would be a little eh if someone asked us to do it, but you know your friends best. If you think they would all love it, then go for it. But as others have said, if someone doesnt do it, they’ll stick out. Im also not a fan of color coordinated photos. They remind of the photos my parents made us take when were little – we weren’t wearing the exact same outfits, but they were all pretty close. So cute for kids photos! Adults – not so much…
Post # 15
I think I’m going to opt out of asking everyone to wear white 🙁 I am very concious about asking them to go all the way out there as it is, I dont want people to be burdened with another obligation.
Post # 16
@ReyDar64: I think this is a good call. I’m sorry you won’t get the exact photo you’re after, but it’ll still be an incredible photo with your happy guests! 🙂