Post # 1
So my step-brother is getting married in a couple months and they have requested a kid free wedding. Normally i would totally be fine with this except for a few reasons.
1) the wedding is in another province
2) All my family will be there except for my husband who will be deployed.
3) She is still nursing, and call me a pain but i dont want to leave my child with a babysitter i do not know.
i honestly wont be offended if they say no. I had a child free wedding, except for babies ( including my step-brother’s 3 month old)
I do not want to be the rude guest that insults the bride by asking if a baby can come. I just want opinions on the best way to ask her
Post # 3
I think if they’ve already made their wishes clear that its a kid free wedding, then I wouldn’t even ask. I would politely decline if you can’t attend sans child. If they contact you to ask why you can’t make it, then let them know.
Post # 4
@MsPerpetua: that’s what I thought too, but the bride brought her kid to my child free wedding wieh out even asking
Post # 5
@Mrscdnnavywife: This is a tough one, because it happened to me where people would acknowledge one of my wedding rules and in the same breath ask for an exception. I took a lot of offense to it because I viewed it as people trying to impose their will on me despite knowing my wishes. But I eventually got over it. Maybe if you bring it up honestly and make it clear that your attendance is not depending on this. “hey, I’m just asking. I’ll be there regardless” goes a lot farther than “well, either cave to my demands or I can’t come.”
Also, can you broach the subject with your brother rather than the bride? That way he can bring it up to her and you’re not putting her on the spot. Maybe he could even make it seem like it was his idea? (i.e. “Babe, she let me bring my baby to her child-free wedding. Can we make an exception for her too?”) Best wishes!