(Closed) How to ask MOH to step down.. Bit long I'm sorry…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4984 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Your date is still pretty far off. Remember, no one is as excited about your wedding as you are. Excitement will happen on her part as things get closer. 

That being said, it’s in very bad taste to ask her to step down. If she brings it up, that’s another thing, but your hands are tied after you ask her. 

There are things you can put your foot down on – like the dress. If you’re paying, she doesn’t get to pick. Don’t pick something that she’ll look horrible in, of course, but she can’t demand she wear something specific at your wedding on your dime. Doesn’t work like that. 

Seems like the two of you need to have an adult conversation. Call her up and get coffee and talk. Nicely. 

Post # 4
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would try to revive our friendship. If you plan to see her 3 times, make weekly calls and either get no response or she blows you off, then just go to her house. tell her that you feel that she is not happy about being in your wedding, and don’t want to strain the friendship further than it already is. Tell her that you want her to be a guest at the wedding, but you don’t feel that her standing as Maid/Matron of Honor would be apropriate given her actions.

Post # 5
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t see how just because her wedding is next years it’s a little far off. My isn’t until November and I want to have everything planned and done before October.

If she is being picky and ungreatful, I believe you can tell her that she isn’t the one for the role. I agree with the posts above in most places.

I hope you get everything worked out and no friendships are ended.

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