Post # 1
I have yet to ask my friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but plan to very soon. I want everyone to be happy and comfortable at the wedding so I’m not too concerned with what type of dress, shoes, hair etc people choose (although my darling and I have had some debates about his glasses…).
However, we’re having a morning wedding – 9:30 a.m – and brunch. My friend has distinct style that looks great on her but, it is a very done up look. Bright blue or purple eyeshadow, mauve lipstick etc.
We talked about hair and makeup a few days ago and she was surprised I would let anyone else do my makeup. Which tells me there is no way on earth she would ever let anyone near her.
I would never ask her to completely change her style but is there any gentle way that I could ask her to tone it down a wee bit for the day?
Or, would it be better to just let it be?
Post # 3
Maybe you could send an email to all of the BMs about the wedding day look and mention that they don’t have to get the same makeup/hair, but you would like all of them to have neutral tones and a natural look. Your Maid/Matron of Honor should be able to take the hint without you offending her by directly calling her out on her personal style.
Post # 4
Are you having a makeup artist or someone designated to do the makeup for the day? This is the easiest way to avoid it all together. You let the mua know what you want, and everyone gets the same.
If not, just specify to all girls how you would like the makeup for the day. Don’t single her out, just announce it to all ladies, or send an email with the look your going for, for inspiration.
I am brutally honest with friends and family, and they know this. When the time comes, I will ask my sister to tone it down. Everything is to the extreme with her from makeup to hair, to nails. I like that everyone can let their own personalities shine through in maybe a muted mauve lip for your Maid/Matron of Honor for example. It’s your day, don’t be afraid to express what your feeling and the look you want. She’ll dictate it to you when it’s her turn.
Post # 5
@msfahrenheit: that would work…except there are no bridesmaides. Just the witnesses…but thanks 🙂
Post # 6
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: I will be getting my hair and makeup done but I don’t think she would let anyone, especially someone she has never worked with before, work on her hair. And definitely not her makeup.
And it’s just the Maid/Matron of Honor, no bridesmaides. So no way to kind of smooth it over using group.
Post # 7
In that case, I’d just have a conversation with her about your vision for the whole look. Tell her how your hair and makeup will be and ask her to go for a natural look as it will best fit in with your look and your vision
Post # 8
I don’t know…if that’s her look I would feel weird asking her to not be herself. You like her for her, yes? Would you ask someone to cover up a tattoo? To me this feels like getting caught up in the minors…. I’d let them do what they wanted. They’re adults I’m assumming and wouldn’t be too rediculous.
Post # 9
@AlbertaBride: Hmm, i think I would let it be. Shes your potential Maid/Matron of Honor – which means you love her for her, her own style and all.
I have a gorgeous friend who dresses mid 50s, to rockabilly to shaving one side of her hair. I love her, all sides of styles! I would never ask her to ‘tone it down’ as thats her.
Does that make sense?
Post # 10
@samanthajkellie: Yes, the more I think about it the more I think I’ll just let things happen as they do.