(Closed) How to ask out of town friends to be in wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think the phone is rude at all. I asked a Bridesmaid or Best Man over the phone, since I wasn’t heading back to my hometown for another four months. Heck, I was asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man over IM and it didn’t phase me in the least. It is how we often talk so it seemed normal to me. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think you can ask them anyway you like…. If you check out the DIY section I’ve seen Bridesmaids proposals.. like a card that asks.

I just asked my friend over the phone…. after telling her I got engaged.. and after she stopped screaming.. OMFG…. lol

Let me see if I can find some of the Bridesmaid or Best Man Cards =)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I have 2 Out of Town BMs. I sent them flowers with a note!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was lucky enough to be able to go home 3 weeks after we got engaged, and my mom wanted to go dress shopping; I asked my lil sis and bff if they wanted to go, and both loved it. So we get to the dress shop about an hour away (I grew up in hicktown FL lol) and I randomly blurted out “oh, would you two like to be my bridesmaids?”

haha in hindsight probably not the best way to ask, but it was before I knew about the bee 😀

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I bought cards with our wedding colors on it, and then semi-DIY’d the poems in them.  I found cute poems online, and then changed them up to fit my girls.  I then printed them on paper and punched two small holes in the card and attached them with some ribbon.  It turned out really cute, I think.

Before they were attached to the cards:

This one shows the outside of the card and the inside of another card, so you can see both together:

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I asked all of mine on the phone because I’m in DC, 2 are in NYC, 1 is in CA, 1 is in TX and the last is in FL!  I’d get some cards and send a nice note!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

All of my BM’s are from out of state and I sen tthem easter baskets with a letter asking them to do me the honor of being in the wedding.  You could always do something similar wiht a holiday that is in the near future (4th of July, Memorial Day, etc) or you could just create a small care package with fun stuff your girls will love!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MuchGreater:  Thank you!  I bought the cards from http://www.cardstore.com/

I wanted yellow and gray cards, and that was the only place at the time where I could find them in our colors.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I asked my two out of town bridesmaids on the phone, thought nothing of it. We live ~13 hr dr apart so I had no idea the next time I would see them! Love the cute ideas here though

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I asked my two out-of-towners via either email or IM, so I see nothing wrong with it.  😀

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