(Closed) How to ask “please be a bridesmaid?”

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll:
    Ask in conversation over dessert : (6 votes)
    33 %
    Grab some alone time before dinner & ask her : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Grab some alone time after dinner & ask her : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Get / make a card : (5 votes)
    28 %
    Other, please explain : (4 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Dinner to catch up and get her hyped up with wedding planning and than pull out the old handmade card with a bridesmaid dress(made of real fabric) on it.  A ton of brides have done that on here but how many BMs have actually been asked that way?  I know I haven’t.  I am also known for cheesy poems that rhyme so I made a little poem about our relationship, short but sweet, to go inside.  It was a hit!

    No matter what you do it doesn’t have to be big and flashy and involve lots of money.  Speak from the heart and they will know you truly want them there.  How can they say no to that?

    I also want to note that I asked a friend to go dress shopping with me.  I proposed with a Ring Pop in front of Macy’s on State before we went in to dry on BMs dresses. 🙂  It fit her personality more for her to have a little pizazz.

    Post # 4
    Member
    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Whatever feels right in the moment love! Don’t worry about making it a big thing.

    My one and only bridesmaid works nights so after I got engaged it was going to be a couple of weeks before I’d be able to see her in person and ask. So I just sent a text message (with misspellings even!)

    If hse loves you (and I have no doubt that she does), the way that you ask isn’t going to matter in the least, she’ll just be happy to be included.

    Plus she probably knows it’s coming Wink

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    When I asked my BMs, I got together with each of them in person individually, and then gave them a frame, in which I’d placed a 4×6 note that I typed up telling them what they mean to me and asking them to be a bridesmaid.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1750 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Get a little cookie made asking her and present it to her for dessert.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I just asked mine via email and over the phone.  🙂  They knew they would be BM’s anyway. 🙂

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