Post # 1
As I was getting everyone’s addresses compiled for our Save-The-Date Cards, I ran into a situation where I was not sure on how to address certain Save-The-Date Cards due to their relationship status. We have two guests right now that we aren’t sure if they’re currently separated with their SO/spouse or not. One is FI’s friend and his on/off girlfriend of 5 years who he has a son with. Last we heard the relationship was over, but that was months ago and we don’t really know where they currently stand. Another person is FI’s cousin. Last we heard she was getting a divorce because she got pregnant and he left her because he realized he didn’t want any of that, but then saw on her FB her husband is talking to her again.
Would it be rude to ask them if they’re still together with their SO/spouse? I’m still holding back on sending these two Save-The-Date Cards because I’m not really sure how to address them! We really don’t want to ask them because fear of sounding rude. Should we try to ask someone else about them instead of asking them directly?
Fiance and I never know these things cause we really try to steer clear of gossip & family drama. These people are close to us, but not that type of close where you converse weekly/monthly.
Post # 3
Just send the STD’s to SO and SO’s family, then lable the invites as Soandso +1
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry too much about the STD’s, address it only to the party that you want to invite no matter what. If the Girlfriend won’t be invited regardless of if she is with your friend, then you don’t send her an STD. Otherwise you will be forced to invite her seperately when invites go out.
When it’s time for invitations just call up your friend and ask”Is there anyone you would like me to invite to accompany you to our wedding? Then ask for their name. Guests should never be addressed as +1. Every guest should be treated in the same way, including being invited by name.
Post # 5
I am not certain what the question is really trying to ask, but I am not likely going to do +1 for everyone. Obviously people who are married or engaged or living togethor get their partner to come. My close friends I know if they are in a committed relationship. What I am doing for unmarried people I dont know that well (like out of town cousins), as I send out STD, I am sending just to them, and I am checking Facebook to give me an idea (not always conclusive), but it can help. I am writing down what it says. Then we I send out actual invites, I will see if they are in same relationship (or none). I am hoping this helps me get some idea if single people are in a long-term relationship. I do not think eveyone has to get a plus one.