- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Thanks for being so helpful on my post about wearing my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress one week before the cruise!
I have another problem… I am in 4 weddings in the next 12 months. I swear, everyone got engaged at the same time! …And I am a grad student with little money. I love all my brides and I am excited for all of them but I just cannot afford everything they are asking 🙁 All the other BM’s have a salary job but I am back in school, she knows my situation. I moved to another state for grad school so I will have to travel for 3 of the weddings.
main problem… shoes for one wedding…
The bride is having us pay for dress ($220), shoes, hair, makeup, nails, and travel for bach. party. Originally she said we could wear any nude color heel since our dresses are long we will not see them anyway. A few weeks later she said they have to be peep toe, and more criteria came out. Now she decided she is picking out shoes for us to buy, and they MUST be darker nude, peep toe, full back, platform, non-patent leather and is looking in thr $75 range.
I already have 3 pairs of nude heels! 1.) patent pump (non peep), 1.) patent peep-toe pump (but sling back), and 3.) pump non patent, but has a nude bow on toe.
What do I do? I cannot afford another pair of nude heels! My mom is already helping me pay for the dress. And the dress is long? Should I just tell her I honestly cannot afford another heel (she knows money is tight for me) and send her pics of the 3 and see if any of them are acceptable? I want to please all my brides, the others (so far) just said wear XYZ style/color, you pick. This paricular bride is picking out a specific shoe for us.
Additionally, makeup, should I ask her if I can just do my own makeup? I am fine with getting my hair done because she wants us in up-dos but I can do my own makeup?
**this is not crucial to the story but my one friend brought this up, this will be a dry wedding with no drinking, dancing or no meal…. she thinks it is strange that we are paying all of this money and not even getting a meal out of it except for cake and appetizers (if we get that since we will be taking pics?). What do you think? I hoenstly did not even think about it until my friend brought it up. She also said something about other guests might be perturbed that they bought a $100+ gift but did not get a meal, glass of wine etc….. this is what my friend said not me, just looking for thoughts on this.