How to assess this situation involving brothels?

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 16
1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Both these people sound awful. Get away from them asap. I’d be a little worried about my husband being friends with people like this than portioning out blame between them, to be honest.

Post # 17
9044 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

MissTiramissu :  Did you witness him slapping her? Because if you did then why didn’t you call the police? At least where I live in Australia he would have been arrested and removed from the house and the police then decide whether to charge him or not regardless of if the victim will press charges.


Post # 18
125 posts
Blushing bee

Wait, so you have witnessed domestic violence and substance abuse in a household with a small child? I’d be calling child protective services asap…

Post # 19
991 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow they both sound like a treat. She stole, he became violent, cheated, and did drugs? Poor kid!!!!! Divorce is better than living like that.

And it must have been SOME kind of sum, for gambling or something to go that far. Because if I took out a major sum of money (not sure how much she took, but guessing had to be well into the 5 figures at least?) and spend it, my husband would definitely wonder where I got the cash for the new Range Rover in the driveway with a Gucci bag inside of it….

Post # 20
884 posts
Busy bee

Lol at these people are “traditional” so they don’t want a divorce. In what culture is drug use, wife beating, stealing, and cheating “traditional?” 

Post # 22
9044 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

MissTiramissu :  Sorry but that is a bs excuse and the more you say the worse your husband sounds in all this. 

If he witnessed domestic violence and a child lives in that house then he should have called the police. So at the very least that it is reported and as I said it becomes up to the police if they press charges and to decide if the child is in danger. 

Post # 25
9809 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

They’re fucked up, quit worrying about their fucked up situation and asking your husband/the internet about what they think about it and focus on getting out immediately.

For me, I wouldn’t wait another few weeks. If things are as bad as you say what’s to stop the husband from coming home and murdering his wife one day with you in the house? 

ETA: Your Husband also sounds like a real winner, What with not wanting to get involved when a woman is being beaten by her doped up husband. Maybe you should leave him with them. 

Post # 26
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Please report this abuse to the police. By not getting involved, you are doing a disservice to the innocent child. Their blood is on your hands if the child becomes a victim of domestic abuse. 

If anything, it will force the parents to go to counseling and get help for their deranged activities. 


Post # 27
9672 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

The most concerning thing here is your husband’s perspective that domestic violence is not a big deal. I would be livid if my husband thought it was okay to stand by and do nothing in that situation and then even more livid if he told me a couple of slaps were no big deal.

Also, it doesn’t matter how much the kid is out if the house or how early they go to bed, there’s no way in hell all this isn’t affecting them.

Post # 28
6806 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Hang on…

This man BEAT HIS WIFE and you and your husband are arguing over the theft and cheating aspect of all of this?!?!

And your husband WITNESSED this man BEAT HIS WIFE and did absolutely nothing?!?!!? That is disgusting and despicable. I wouldn’t be able to ever see my husband the same after something like that. 

Post # 29
6161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

MissTiramissu :  your husband not intervening when he witnessed his friend slapping his wife is way more fucked up than him being neutral about the brothels.

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