(Closed) How to avoid a disappointing engagement ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What excites you about your ring and makes you proud to display it?
    Uniqueness of the setting& ring overall : (105 votes)
    55 %
    Overall size of the center stone : (27 votes)
    14 %
    Overall quality of the center stone (sacrificing size for better color, clarity, and cut) : (49 votes)
    26 %
    Don't care at all. : (11 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @mrsoze:  You sound sweet!

    I’d stick with the stone you have. Getting into the SI ranges is risky, and if she’s color sensitive, you don’t want to go below a G.

    1.25 is very respectable.

    The only thing I question is the channel set band. A lot of ladies don’t like that style. Pave is more popular and sparkles more. Channel set is good if she works with her hands or is athletic… it protects the diamonds a bit more.

    It’s a number of things that make the ring liked… personally I look for quality and I would be happy with a 1.25 with those specs. Absolutely. I’d prefer platinum over gold… you need to re-dip white gold so it’s a bit more maintenance… but it’s perfectly fine for an engagement ring if she hasn’t said she has a preference for it (and the 14k means a bigger diamond!).

    ETA: Yeah, size matters to me as well… I definitely would not want something below a carat, 1.25 is lovely.. my coworker has one and it sparkles like mad and is a good size!

    Post # 4
    259 posts
    Helper bee

    You should not sacrifice Quality for Quantity, get her a smaller stone, but a very high quality one. If it was anything other than an engagement ring like earrings, it is okay to go lower quality, because you don’t look at earrings as closely as you do engagement rings. 

    Im sure whatever you get her she will love, because it came from you.

    Post # 5
    7437 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I wa able to pick the setting that I wanted. That made a huge difference for me. I knew that I loved everything about it. There are so many beautiful rings out there, but none of them felt like me except the setting I chose. Fiance already had the diamond, and it was more beautiful and larger than I ever thought I would be given.

    If you’re comfortable with it, I would let her at least choose her setting if not her setting and the diamond.

    Post # 6
    6222 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    @canarydiamond:  +1. 1.25 is definitely respectable- do you know what size her hand is? I was also going to comment on the channel setting- they’re not really the preferred ring by a lot of women, so make sure you know that she likes that style

    Post # 8
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @mrsoze:  Full Disclosure:  My ring is not a diamond, it’s a moissanite, so I don’t feel qualified telling you what specs I would be proud of in a diamond. 

    However, I can tell you the things that make me the most proud of my ring.  I love how sparkly it is, I love how unique the band is and that I have sapphire side stones which make it more unique.  I love that the stone is large enough to be noticeable but not gaudy.  And I really, really love that he picked out a cushion cut…..and then had it kite set.  That’s not something you see very often with cushions.

    Post # 9
    14658 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My answer is not up there.  I’d say a balance between the size and quality.  Looks like you have a good balance there.  I wouldn’t go any lower than H, and I’d only pick out an SI if I could see the stones in person and anaylze the flaws myself.  If going from VS1 to VS2 buys you anything, I’d consider that.   My husband got a F/VS2 and I love the quality rating it has, but once ni a blue moon, I wish he’d gone down to H/ eye clean SI for a little more size.

    Post # 10
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2008

    To get more for your money I highly suggest a wholesale diamond dealer, there will be no sacrifice that way. Good luck!

    Post # 11
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @mrsoze:  I definitely would rather have a higher quality stone vs a bigger one of poorer quality. I have a G, VVS1, Triple ex cut, H&A that is less than a carat, and I would rather have it than a 1ct or larger lower quality stone. 

    Post # 12
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @mrsoze:  Having a half eternity really helps. I have small fingers (5.5) and a half eternity right hand ring, and the only time it bothers me is when my hand is cold and the ring spins and the diamonds actually touch my skin.

    Post # 15
    1505 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I agree with Loves a Fire.  It is also important to keep in mind that every diamond is different and not all diamonds are graded equally–GIA certified diamonds are gradeed more consistently than say, EGL stones.  Are you buying local or are you looking online?

    Post # 16
    2454 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    That’s so sweet!

    As far as ‘quantity over quality,’ that’s something that you should definitely talk to her about.

    I know a lot of ladies that would prefer a slightly yellower stone in exchange for more size, but a very very white stone was a BIG deal for me. Fortunately, Fiance felt the same way.

    I’d pick a D-F color half carat over a J-L color full carat every time. But again, that’s MY preference and I know of at LEAST a dozen women who feel the complete opposite way.

    Your best bet is to ask her about it. 🙂

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