(Closed) How to avoid being an anxious waiting bee?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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302 posts
Helper bee

It’s helpful just to keep an open line of communication with him. I got more frustrated before I actually talked to him about it.  But be careful–once you talk to him about it a little bit, you will want to ask more and more questions, and I know for me I still want it to be a surprise.  Knowing a vague timeline has helped, but honestly I feel like it has been so darn long that the only thing that will help now is the actual engagement! I will say that after we have talks about it I feel better for some time (sometimes a few weeks, sometimes only a few days).  If you start feeling really crummy/anxious, make sure you talk to him about it so it doesn’t just blow up in his face one day (that’s what has happened to us, lol!). As they always say, just try to enjoy this part of the relationship and have fun–easier said than done, though!! 🙂

Post # 5
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I second a lot of what @yellowlinedpage said. I think it also depends on your personality. For me I can’t keep quiet and it’s actually worse for me if I try to bottle up how I feel. But also I’ve gone a little too far with my questioning and basically know so much about the when/what ring details. So if you want it to be a surprise don’t ask too many questions or snoop too much! 

As everyone always says I think it helps to keep busy. The more activities and other things you do to keep occupied, the less time you’ll have to worry about the proposal. I think for me, sometimes looking up wedding details and even discussing wedding details with my SO helps. Sometimes it just makes me more anxious, but usually it makes me feel like I have control over the situation. My boyfriend and I have mutually made the decision to get married, but now I’m just waiting on his proposal. By looking up details and getting ideas I have an outlet for my already wedding-filled mind. 

That’s just my 2 cents and what has somewhat worked for me.  Wink

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