(Closed) How to avoid giving gifts to people you don’t like

posted 8 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Don’t participate in the exchange…you don’t give or receive.

Post # 4
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

How about just gracefully bowing out of the gift exchange and getting something for the baby? Seems reasonable to me!

Post # 5
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Don’t participate!

Post # 6
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Locally we have a “Jingle Bell Run” and its a 1 mile walk or a 5k run that is right around the holidays.  Our group of friends usually decides to do this as a group rather than buy gifts for each other.  I would much rather spend $15 to spend time with friends (walking) and knowing the money goes to charity.  I’m sure there are plenty of events like this around your area. 

Or, what about the Operation Christmas Box.  Maybe make it a competition to see who can be most creative filling a shoe box with christmas gifts for a child over seas? 

Post # 7
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Our family gives gifts only to the kids and not siblings. 

Post # 8
4485 posts
Honey bee

Don’t allow anyone to pressure or force you into something you are not comfortable doing. Don’t participate in the exchange. However a gift for the baby might be appreciated if you are up for that.

Post # 9
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If you all don’t like clutter, why not give a nice gift basket of foodstuffs? They’ll eat it, and then it will be gone. Or they can easily regift. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.

Or yeah – just drop out if you think that’s best. But I highly endorse food gifts.

Post # 10
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My Fi and I didn’t have much money a few years ago nor do we this year so we are doing the same thing we did then…buy some cheaper frames and get couple photos put in them. This year is our son’s first Christmas so he will be in the pictures and people will love them. Who doesn’t want pictures of their family decorating the house?

Post # 11
4824 posts
Honey bee

Are your parents still around? Maybe suggest instead of giving each other gifts you all get together to put a little extra into a large gift for your parents? Like a weekend away in a bed and breakfast, refinish the floors or new carpeting in a house, etc.

Or suggest that since there is a new member of the family (child) you start a new tradition that everyone donate a bit of money (like $20) to a college fund for that child. As new children enter you can adjust that dollar amount if needed.


Post # 12
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

If I read correctly, NOT participating isn’t an option? It’s either no one participates at all, or you have to participate?

Hmmm….What if you advocated changing the terms of the exchange and tailored it in a way so that it wasn’t about objects? For example, everyone exchanges their favorite homemade frozen meal for the other family to save and defrost for a lazy Monday night; exchanging services–so only things you can use (these can be either things that you provide yourselves, or gift certificates for services)–massages, manicures, car washes, pet grooming, gardening, movie theatre gc; my friends have done one where everything you gave had to be hand-made (although that still could get you crap)…

Are there children in your family? My family has always done a “secret santa” exchange, but only for the children, not the adults.

I like the family meal together–perhaps everyone could just contribute $50–restaurants usually will make up a special pre-set menu for large parties. $50/person is reasonable.

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