(Closed) How to avoid stress- the small things

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Make a packing list and a todo list for your big day. (Down to the shoes you’re wearing, pjs, etc.)

Go through the list and check off all the items you have and write down a note on their current location. Week before the wedding make sure everything’s all done and in their right place. I found out 4 days before my wedding that I forgot to buy a veil. Seriously.

Post # 4
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve been using the wedding checklist on http://www.theknot.com, it has been really helpful so far

Post # 5
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

I felt stressfree up until the 100 day mark. Then I started running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off (and that was less than two weeks ago). Make lots of lists of things to do. Start your DIY projects now.

Post # 6
11746 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@papercrafter:  I felt the same way as you, but I’m 2.5 weeks out and have been feeling the stress for the past few weeks.  There’s so many things you just can’t do until the end and tying up all the lose ends is stressful.  Make a to-do list to make sure you don’t forget anything! Also, put all the wedding day essentials (cake knife, toasting flutes, grooms gift, garter, etc. all the little decorations you’re bringing) in a big box and add to it as you collect more things – that way it’s all in one place!

Those are a few tips helping me manage the stress.

Post # 7
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Because I just started working again last month, most of the Wedding Party was left to the last minute. I should be finished with the centerpieces by wed. My Wedding Party is working on my favors and the ceremony programs are being REDONE (the lady that’s doing them spelled my name wrong!!!)I need to talk to the judge today, I’m waiting for my caterer to call me back with a quote this week, I need to get my mani/pedi tomorrow (I haven’t found a nail shop where I want to get my nails done yet). I get my haircut thurs. I STILL haven’t found a makeup artist yet! I wanted to take my kids on a mini vacation to the Ft. Worth zoo to get away from this crazy wedding stress (over 2 hrs away from us) but I still have so much to do! They don’t even have their dresses and tux yet!!!

Post # 8
8039 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@papercrafter:  I think it depends a lot on personality. One of the annoying things my anxious self does is to nitpick the stupidest things and ruin otherwise happy occasions for myself.

I can’t speak for weddings, but I am sure that if I was planning a big wedding, I would drive myself nuts over some inconsequential detail, whether it mattered or not.

If you’re feeling good now then hopefully you’ll feel fine as it gets closer. It’s about perspective really. As long as the groom shows up, you’re good to go haha. If you can keep that attitude, then nothing will get you down.

I think some common things brides stress about are the weather (especially if it’s an outdoors wedding), losing the last few pounds or getting a pimple on the day, last minute things going wrong like with the cake or the DJ or something.. those sorts of things.

Post # 9
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@papercrafter:  I was doing my place cards the night before … and generally running around like a chicken with her head cut off.

I was insanely organized and was planning to have a leisurely week leading up to the wedding – but – there was an unexpected family emergency which railroaded a lot of my planning and made me push things I’d save to do on ‘x’ day … which was a domino effect.  

IF you can get things done ahead of time, DO IT and don’t wait just because you have plenty of time… you never know what unexpected events (not wedding related) could demand your time/attention.

Post # 11
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The weekend before my wedding, a hurricane ravaged the area.  For a few days the roads were completely closed/flooded out.  My florist was trapped in the second floor over her apartment during a 6-foot flash flood.  There was no power at our venue for about 5 days.  We gave the National Guard a list of a guests because they were restricting access to the area to “local traffic only”.  The caterer quit with exactly 48 hours notice.

Here are the details that suffered, since the week before had been spent trying to fix the fallout from the storm.  We hadn’t finished our playlist.  (The playlist was outsourced to a friend who totally saved the day.)  We hadn’t practiced our first dance.  We hadn’t figured out how to cover the huppah which my husband had built.  (The Maid/Matron of Honor and best man solved this on the morning id the wedding.)  I had stuff to display at the reception (guest book, parents’ wedding albums, etc.) but I hadn’t coordinated with anyone about what to set up.  (My Maid/Matron of Honor dealt with that too.)  And we had no dessert because our plan to have Carvel cake wound up being too complicated (not enough space to store it, and not enough time to implement my husband’s ill-thought-out plan involving dry ice), so we had to implore our guests to bring potluck dessert.

I think I have wedding PTSD!!!!!

Post # 13
13590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, my stress right now is coming from sources I’d never have guessed would have been stressful.  In-laws, family members, seating drama, unforeseen illness, etc.  There would have been no way to prepare for it, although there have been ways that could have lessened the blow (better communication from the people involved would have been fantastic…).

Post # 14
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@papercrafter:  Yes, it was incredible how much people pitched in to help.  That was really touching, and I will never forget it.  My parents also brought generators from three hours away so we could light the venue.  Luckily the power was restored about 2 hours after the caterer quit.  The venue owner managed to find a new caterer for us.  (We did have a buffet instead of table service though!)  Everything really came together at the last minute, and the wedding bore a shocking resemblance to the original plan.  But boy, being married is way easier and more pleasant than trying to get married!

Post # 15
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@papercrafter:  make sure you write your day-of-payment cheques or take the cash out in advance and have it in envelopes with the vendor marked on it. I’ve heard of brides forgetting this on the day. most have had understanding vendors but you never know…

Post # 16
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you’ll be fine as long as you don’t try to do too much on the day before or day of the wedding because unplanned things will come up or things will take longer than expected.

I originally wanted a manicure the day before but was busy doing all my own flowers, shopping for the evening cheese board buffet (which we did ourselves due to wanting local cheeses), then had to wait longer than expected for my family to arrive, meet my Future In-Laws and then had arranged to meet a large group of friends for dinner.

I had no lunch and barely had time to shower and apply make up by the end.

On my wedding day, my hair and make up lady took over twice as long as she said she would, wasting time waving my hair for 2 hours (wtf?) which didn’t even take, she rushed my make up and left me 10 minutes to get dressed and out of the door.

That was the stressful part! I wanted to have half an hour to relax and compose myself before going off to marry my husband not rushing to the point where I put on my jewellery on in the car!


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