- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Normally I’m not trying to keep people away from my social gatherings, but a very rude boor has infiltrated our otherwise very fun and pleasant group of friends. One of FI’s best friends (and a groomsman) has a girlfriend we all hate. I have tried to give her several chances for us to warm up to one another, but I don’t like her, she doesn’t like me, and there isn’t much that can be done about that. We’ll call her B. But I’m not the only one who doesn’t like B. FI’s best man doesn’t like her, FI’s parent’s don’t like her, etc.
Understandably, I don’t want to have someone I don’t like (and who doesn’t like me) at our wedding. For a normal wedding, I would just let this go, because it is only a few hours of my life. However, we are doing a destination wedding in Italy. We are paying for a villa for a whole week, and the entire bridal party is staying in the villa. So, it’s not as if B is just tagging along for one day, she would basically be coming on vacation with us for a whole week.
B and FI’s friend have been together for a couple of years now, so it’s not as if she is someone new that he would leave at home (it’s a small possibility she might not want to take the time off work, but who would turn down a trip to Italy?). As far as I can tell, there isn’t a good (polite) way to get her not to come.
My parents suggested we tell FI’s friend that we have room for the bridal party in the villa but not for anyone else (B would be the only person staying in the villa that isn’t part of the bridal party- other people have SO’s, but they are part of it), and that if he wants to bring a guest, he and B will have to stay at the hotel next door (where the guests will be staying). That might just be true (we are waiting to hear from a waffler), but I don’t feel comfortable saying something like that in case we do end up with extra space for some reason.
Fiance is on the same page as me, because he doesn’t like B either, but neither of us can think of anything he could say to his friend to get B to stay home. Any bright ideas?
If you don’t have any ideas as to how to keep her away, any tips on dealing with someone who is abraisive that I’ll be around all week?