(Closed) how to be a good support

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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RunningGal:  this depends on your relationship. My dh tends to be impulsive so even when he is having a tough time at work, I do play devils advocate and he appreciates it because it helps him work through the options he hasn’t considered. Otherwise I know with my dh the best thing I can do is give him space when he gets home and let him unwind/cool off or some of it will be taken out on me which then makes him feel worse.

i try to just take up as much of the slack at home as I can when he is having a tough time. Make him tea/coffee and sometimes pour him a beer randomly if i can see it has been a really rough day. I also used to randomly write him notes and pack with his lunch. My dh only recently got out of a job where everyday was a bad day so I know it can be hard.

Post # 4
1640 posts
Bumble bee

Can you ask him what he finds helfpul? 

Post # 5
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - backyard

Be there for him, the best way you know how. I agree with PP ask him what he needs

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