Post # 1
My fiance and I have been living together for one year now, and this is both of ours first real home – so we haven’t really got much in the way of crockery, or …. cushions – just general stuff, we have cracked cheap plates, and bent cutlery – which is fine for us, but I would like at least one matching set of crockery for when my Mum comes down!
But our wedding is pretty close to christmas, I don’t want people to be put out buying us a wedding gift they can’t afford, nor do I want to go down the, money over gifts route.
What is standard wedding protocall, how do you say:
“we’d love some presents – but don’t feel obliged!” ?
I’m also relucatnt to make a wedding registry – just becasue I wouldn’t want people to feel obliged to get us a specific gift at a set price – and tbh we’re really not a wedding registry kind of couple.
Post # 3
I love that you call it crockery. What exactly does that apply to?
There is really no nice way to say we’d like gifts. Do people in the UK typically register?
Post # 4
There is no standard wedding protocol for what you describe because mentioning gifts on invitations (even if it’s to say “no gifts) is considered impolite. The bottom line is the people who really want to give you a gift will do so regardless of any statement you make. Everyone else will give what they can afford (if at all). If you don’t want to register, then don’t. People will probably give you cash or something they pick out themsleves (which can be risky or amazing).
Post # 5
I’m pretty sure that in the UK as it is here, it is not considered polite to mention gifts on the invitations- period.
As a pp has said, people who want to give you a gift will buy one, no matter what you say or do. You might as well register and get something you like, want or need.
If you register for gifts in a wide range of prices, your guests will find something in their budget.
Post # 6
@SoontobeMrsA: Crockery just covers, plates, bowls, cups and saucers, if your going the whole hog then serving dishes and serving plates. People do register for gifts and it’s reasonably common, but it’s not the standard practice, one thing we really don’t do very much is the cash gift thing, some people do vouchers, but it’s generally either gifts or no gifts.
Sorry – I explained myself rubbishly! This wasn’t for the invites – more for the follow up info, venue, office, hotels, ect….. I just haven’t even thought about invites yet – so regardless of what it is, it’s comming under the blanket term “invite”.
I would feel uncomfortable accepting money, but I trust my friends and family to choose veugly suitible gifts and tbh …. we quite like horrible gaudy stuff – so what ever crap they buy us we’ll probably love anyway! We are the couple with a blue glittery jesus in their kitchen …. it’s one of our few “home decorations” 😛