- 7 years ago
First, I just want to say that my husband in no way pushes me towards the stereotypical feminine/housewife roles. That’s not what this post it about. 🙂
Second, a little background. We were LDR most of our relationship, and then I moved from Asia to America (I’m American) to, you know, be married. I moved back to the States in July, and for the first few months, I didn’t have much luck with finding a job. I didn’t start working full time until mid-October.
While I wasn’t working, I had a lot of time on my hands, and got really bored – so I started playing housewife. I meal planned (for the first time ever, haha) and started making nice balanced meals. Meat, veggies, starch. Every night.
Okay, now to the point: I’m working now, and I’m kind of sick of cooking for us all the time. Not just that, I’m tired of eating these big complete meals every night. I miss living alone (i.e. being “single” – in quotes because a lot of my life while we were LDR really felt like I was single) and eating the way I used to eat.
I find that I eat a lot more, especially meat, with my husband. I used to have meat 1-2x a week; now it’s every day. Dinner used to consist of stuff like a yogurt and a piece of sandwich meat.
I’ve gained so much weight (like 10 pounds in 6 months!) and I think a lot of it is from eating such big dinners (okay, and some of it is because there’s SO MUCH JUNK FOOD in America! Holy holiday themed candy, batman!).
My husband, on the other hand, used to eat fast food for dinner every night. Naturally, the introduction of vegetables into his diet means his pants are now falling off. Fabulous.
He works really long hours and there’s no way he would cook for himself at the end of the day. Plus he’s usually totally famished when he comes home. I would say at least 3 days a week, he skips lunch because he’s too busy, so he pretty much doesn’t eat all day until dinner. Thus, why I make such huge meals.
I’ve tried really hard to do portion control, but it’s tough when he’s eating 2-3x what I am. I wish I could just go back to grazing at dinner time, but I don’t want to strand my husband without meals (he won’t eat what I’ve made if I’m not eating with him; I’ve learned that by trying to get him to eat leftovers if I’m not home, or even if he comes home late and I’ve already eaten).
I also really don’t want to lose the time that we spend talking over dinner. It’s one of my favorite parts of the day! But I miss eating like a girl, hahahaha…
Am I being totally irrational? Or is there a solution that I’m just overlooking?
(Sorry for the novel…)