- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
No good deed goes unpunished. Seriously!
A bit of backstory: I met this woman last fall while we were involved in something for a theatre group. She seemed nice but quite socially awkward and didn’t seem to have any friends at these gatherings. She had recently gotten married so I struck up a conversation with her regarding weddings and such and it took off from there.
She then started badgering me about details of my wedding and sending me links and suggestions and contacts for things (none of which I liked) and then seemed annoyed when I didn’t want her help! I politely declined telling her these things weren’t my taste, but she kept it up.
After the obligation with the theatre was over, we made loose plans to get together with our SO’s in the future. Between the holidays and other stuff, I got very busy in the months following our show. She kept hounding me to make plans so finally I caved and we went to dinner with them. It went OK, we had a good time and everyone got along, but she’s not really my kind of person. I’m extremely laid back and down for anything while she is the type of person who looks to be constantly offended and always has some grandiose statement on politics and religion and race.
Her posts on facebook are down right obnoxious. It’s like she uses social media as a soapbox from which to preach. She comments on things that have absolutely nothing to do with her and likes to argue with people all over my facebook page about it. i.e. I posted something about Jesus around Easter that she had something rude to say about and deemed it the appropriate time to tell me how Jesus wasn’t white, but a dark skinned middle-eastern man (as if I didn’t know the historical relevance?) and what the F**K does it have to do with anything?
I posted a funny clip from “Seinfeld” (if anyone remembers the episode where Elaine couldn’t tell if her boyfriend was black and HE thought she was hispanic??) to another friend’s facebook page and well, did she take that one to task! Decided then and there was the time to teach me about “color-blindness” and “stereotypes”???
So I’m guessing she sees me as some white, entitled, holy-roller, racist, ignorant elitist…but STILL wants to hang out with me. She keeps trying to make plans with me before I get too “busy for the wedding”. Honestly? I don’t want to hang out! I find you quite ridiculous! The thing is, I’ll still have to see her on occasion b/c we’re involved in the same theatre group. I don’t want to make things awkward.
This is weird. It’s like I’m asking help with a break up. I guess I kind of am, right?? Has anyone been in a similar situation, having to “break up” with a friend? WE’RE NOT EVEN CLOSE!! This is ridiculous!!