(Closed) How to bring up Moissy….

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I...
    mention it now? : (24 votes)
    62 %
    wait until after the job interview process is over regardless of whether he gets the job or not? : (8 votes)
    21 %
    mention it right away if he gets the job? : (7 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @ranyamellon:  I told my SO about Moissaniteby showing him the website diamondssuck.com. I approached it in kind of a “Guess what I found out” way. He seemed very interested. He’s an engineer so he’s into that kind of stuff.

    As far as the timing goes, I wouldn’t say something if he’s the nervous type and has a lot of anxiety about his job and stuff. I knew I needed to tell my engineer as soon as possible to get the wheels turning–he takes a long time to mull things over.

    Plus $1000 should get you a MUCH nicer ring than if you were buying a diamond!

    Post # 4
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would say to bring it up now and let him get used to the idea! Just tell him you want it instead of a diamond so that he knows for when he gets his fulltime job πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
    1360 posts
    Bumble bee

    I say just tell him. If it’s the center stone you want, approach him before he even gets the job, just say, “Hey, if you’re planning on e-ring shopping at ANY point in the future, I want you to start here because this is what I would like for my stone…” etc.

    Also, mention to him that with $1000 he can get an AMAZING and enhanced Amora Moissanite that will be bigger and possibly higher quality than a diamond with the same amount.

    My Fiance paid 1060.00 total for my e-ring, and it’s a 1 carat center enhanced with a halo! πŸ˜‰


    Post # 6
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @missjuli:  This is basically what I did. I’d been researching it for about a week when I decided it’s what I really wanted, and when I finally brought it up, it was with a “hey, look at this really cool stone I heard about!” and it just went from there.

    I’d just tell him now and stress that there’s no pressure on your end, but you wanted your preferences out there should he start thinking about shopping.

    Post # 8
    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @ranyamellon:  πŸ™‚ My Fiance thought the same thing, was straight up and hard headed about NO moissanite cuz he might come off as cheap, and hes not gonna settle for somehing that isnt ” real” and yada yada yada.. and guess what I have now? a Moissy πŸ˜€ Cuz I showed him that I DO Want one- its not because I am trying to make it easy on him but because really really, I want one.. he saw how much I would love one and how much I disliked diamonds, he finally settled and got me whta I want cuz its something Ill wear. Dont worry! your man will warm up to the idea, Just show him much youd rather a moissy then anythingn else πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @ranyamellon:  my SO had the same initial reaction…. BUT i won out and got my moissy in the end. πŸ™‚   he still says “i want to upgrade it to a diamond someday” and i always say “what?? i want to upgrade to the amora gem at some point, but really never want a diamond.” and then he’ll say “oh okay, just checking. i want to make sure you didn’t compromise just because it was cheaper.”  so i think he’s just having a hard time accepting that some people really don’t want a diamond. if you hold your ground, i bet you’ll win over in the end. just be really firm on your reasons why you want a moissy, show him pics of others’ rings, etc.

    Post # 10
    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    @ranyamellon:  I know a few other Bees have had the same issue with their families, and they just don’t tell them it’s not a diamond. Not sure if you’d want to do that but it’s an option!

    Post # 11
    4663 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    tell him now so it doesn’t appear that it hinges upon getting the job or not

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