(Closed) How to calm down a Very Excited Bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t know what you should do. I wish I had someone overly excited for mine. I actually feel exactly the opposite way. No one has wanted much to do with the wedding planning. Maybe later when you’re in over your head you’ll be happy you have her

Post # 4
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I like your idea of the email with a specific outline for her. You could acknowledge in that email how thankful you are that she’s so enthusiastic and you’re sure she would be great at doing x. I would suggest making it clear that other people are assigned other tasks so she knows she can concentrate on her own. 

Post # 5
433 posts
Helper bee


You should give her a specific list of things that she can do for the wedding that will keep her occupied.  There’s nothing wrong with her being excited to plan your shower.  You should be grateful for that.  If you don’t want to think about it, just tell her to surprise you with the party.  That should keep her pretty busy.

Really though, why did you ask her to be a bridesmaid if you don’t want her help with the wedding planning?  As for asking about the single guys attending the dinner, is that really out of character for her?  If her personality has always been that way you shouldn’t expect her to suddenly act all classy and reserved for your wedding events.  She is who she is and if you don’t like her than why is she your friend?  

And you should really let your Future Sister-In-Law know that there will be a vegetarian at the dinner, and about anyone else you know who has specific dietary restrictions like allergies or intolerances. If someone is hosting a dinner they should have food available for all the guests to eat.  That’s not unreasonable.  And just tell her she doesn’t need to bring a dessert because there will already be some there.  I always offer to bring something to dinners just to be polite.  I don’t see why that would hurt your FSIL’s feelings?  A simple no thanks should be sufficient.

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