(Closed) How to calm down about waiting- potentially almost engaged

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know it’s so tough but the best thing for me was to keep myself busy.  You should put time into looking for a job and maybe volunteering if possible to keep your skills valid for when you find a job.  I don’t know if you are asking him a lot but when I was bothering my husband a lot, he would just tease me about getting engaged but when I stopped asking and went on with my life, he asked.  In the end it doesn’t matter if you are wearing the perfect dress or on the perfect date, just that he wants you to be his wife and asks!

Post # 4
Member
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m a waiting bee too.

My Boyfriend or Best Friend has said to me that he could either buy the first ring in the first store that he walks into and come home and give me the ring, OR he can take his time, and put some effort into the search and then plan a nice proposal. Which one would I prefer? The effort of course even though it means I am waiting.

Post # 5
Member
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@PinkBubbleGum: 

Girl you have by October that is right around the corner. It’s probably even harder for you to wait because you know he has the ring and he gave you a timeline, but try to let him do the proposal himself. I do hope he hurries up and propose just so you won’t be on pins and needles.

Post # 7
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ummm…I’m going to agree with you that you are nuts.  Let him do this on his own time and at his own pace.  He is probably somewhat nervous and may have his own agenda about what ring, where he gets it, etc.  I know my Fiance researched it for months to make sure he got the best diamond he could afford.  He was planning it all along but wanted to keep some things a surprise.

Do NOT worry about the perfect outfit.  Fiance proposed on a Saturday morning while I was in my PJs, hadn’t brushed my teeth and was paying bills.  He planned on doing it later in the day at our new house, by the lake but got nervous and just had to get it over with!

 

Post # 8
Member
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Just let him do his thing. Micromanaging a proposal does NOT set a good tone for the engagement and marriage…just hang in there.

Post # 9
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I know it’s ridiculously hard to wait, but you need some other distractions! You know that it will definitely be by the end of the year, so set yourself a deadline that is a little further out. That way you won’t be thinking that it will be tomorrow, and give him a chance to surprise you! You know he’s doing a lot of work surrounding it, which is awesome! It’s a huge purchase, and it’s great that he’s putting so much effort into it!

Post # 10
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493 posts
Helper bee

@PinkBubbleGum AND @7mom my sorority sisters we always respond to each others posts and have posted to all of the exact same boards it feels like. So we have unofficially become waiting sisters. LOL.

@PinkBubbleGum I think that the waiting anxiety is the worse. Trust me each move my Boyfriend or Best Friend makes I feel like it’s going to be the time. Oddly though I know he hasn’t purchased the ring even though we have found the one that we both love. (his reasons are mostly financial). At least you have the comfort of knowing that he is moving forward and making preparations. For you that means sooner rather than later.

Post # 11
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23 posts
Newbee

No advice here – just wanted to say I totally feel your pain and I’m in exactly the same boat! My Boyfriend or Best Friend talked to my dad last April, at which time he already had a ring, and told ALL of our friends that he would be proposing this summer. Well now we’re nearing the end of September and still no proposal…I am close to exploding! It is sooo hard to be patient, not nag or get angry. I’ve been waffling back and forth for the past 2 weeks on whether I should ask him what the hold up is, but really don’t want to spoil the surprise if it is coming soon. Keeping busy is definitely the only way to stay sane! Good luck!! Hope he asks soon 🙂

Post # 13
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@PinkBubbleGum: Exactly! Then you’re not expecting anything until Thanksgiving for yourself, so if he proposes anytime before then, you’ll be suprised and happy he made it before your fictitious deadline!

Post # 14
Member
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@PrettySedity: I’m in a sorority too, I know how it feels to share everything with your girls. Waiting sisters SOUNDS GREAT!!

Post # 15
Member
493 posts
Helper bee

@7mom: You are definitely a part of our waiting sorority. You posts to our boards and give us great advice. (Sorry I thought I inlcuded you) LOL. You guys help me so much.

@PinkBubbleGum: That’s a good idea your Thanksgiving deadline. Just make sure if you set it that you stick to it. My bday is next month (Oct) and his bday is 6 days after mine. So I will allow him my bday and then his bday (since it’s so close and I don’t want to spoil it) but after that I will definitely be having a “talk”.

Post # 16
Member
23 posts
Newbee

@PinkBubbleGum: I’m usually not good at keeping quiet, so this is a struggle! But the thought of his sweet little face if I spoiled a surprise is good motivation.

@2PeasInaPod: Great idea on a deadline! Waiting feels more manageable with goal in sight.

 

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