Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2017 - Country Cottage and Gardens
I got engaged in the end of December. My fiance is in grad school and I will be starting grad school next month (a two year program). We’ve been together for almost 8 years. We’ve gotten a lot of negative response over the years about the fact that we’ve been together for so long but haven’t become engaged or married. My friends think that I should automatically be upset. But neither of us has ever been in a hurry. He was in the military for the first 3 years, deployed for most of it, and then was in school for 4 years. So we’ve always just believed that we would wait until we were out of school and “financially stable” (if there ever is such a thing). So when he proposed in December I knew right away that I wouldn’t be setting a date for anything sooner than after graduate school (May 2016). I also don’t really want to try and do any heavy duty planning until after I’m out. This leaves me plenty of time to really set a date. But every time I consider dates, I like so many. I can see benefits of all the seasons and every time I start to lean towards one season, I see something that makes me like a different one. Right when I think I would like spring, I see winter pictures and love that too. So what made you choose your date/season and what are the benefits/drawbacks of the different ones?
Post # 2
I chose Summer as it has always been my favourite season. I also figured that it would be the warmest season with least chance of rain (getting married in UK).
I also thought having the wedding during the school summer holidays would be easier for teacher friends and guests with kids.
Post # 3
April for me! Come for the decent weather, stay for the slightly off peak season discounts :-p
ETA: we originally thought summer, especially since fmil is a teacher and could help more with a summer wedding, but we switched to spring for the discounts. Our all-inclusive venue would have been $15 more pp a week later in May, costing us about 2k more. Accommodations at our beach town location also spike in summer, and there are minimum stays at most. By being just out of the typical wedding season, we still get a nice time of year but save quite a bit. Winter would have been even cheaper, but we didn’t want to risk a snowstorm
Post # 4
We had ours the summer before I started grad school and it was perfect! It depends on the couple though, summer was the only season I ever considered.
Post # 5
I have always wanted an outdoor wedding and we live too far North for that to be in any months other than June, July or August. I am a teacher so June is too crazy. His first wedding was in July.
August it is. lol
Post # 6
I picked September because I wanted to get married on the day we met. I compromised on that one though, and now we’re getting married one day before the day we met. That was my one and only reason for picking our date. But it works perfectly because it’s off season, on the Sunday of a long weekend, and I will only miss a couple classes for our honeymoon.
Post # 7
My SO and I looooove the fall season. He hates summer and I hate spring. This leaves winter and fall. With winter being so unpredictable and climatically unfavorable in recent years (the climate scientist coming out in me..) fall makes sense (also with summers and the nice weather lasting longer). ALSO tourism dies down in the fall, and I want to do a US destination outdoor wedding.
Post # 8
Even though I plan on being a teacher by the time I get married (and the fact that my mother is a teacher), I really want to avoid a summer wedding. I live in southern Ohio, but I associate the summer with disgusting humidity and hotter temperatures than one would expect, that make me break into a sweat as long as I’m not in the shade. DBF and I have our dating anniversary in late April, but the specific day tends to fall on weekdays, which would make anything but eloping after work impossible. That pretty much leaves us with a winter wedding, which works because it’s DBF’s favorite season.
Post # 9
I based mine on availability of people and venue. My fiance and I really wanted our pastor to be our officiant so we asked him for what dates he’s available, we pushed off our wedding a while longer bc our best man got deployed to Afghanistan, and bc we are both very active in church we didn’t want it to overlap any camps/meetings etc that we knew people would have to miss. We then asked our ideal venue for their dates and between all of this there was only one Saturday that lined up perfectly with everybody! And then the date turned out to be cool…12/13/14
that said, I’m glad we went this route. I really wanted a summer or fall wedding but now that we’re doing a winter wedding I have completely fallen in love with our Christmas theme (not traditional red and green but using elements like a tree, lights, etc).
Post # 10
I got engaged this past February, and after calling around to various venues and looking at their prices – a few still had spots opened for this Fall. I have always loved Fall, so I couldn’t pass it up. I know that meant that we wouldn’t be engaged for that long, but it made for some quick decisions and things are right on schedule! I may miss the cuttoff time for the leaves in my region, but I think it’ll still be pretty.
I know that we could have waited until next spring, but that meant waiting another year. That to me, seemed too long – especially since we’d want to to start working on a family around that time (we’re mid 30’s).
Post # 11
Where do you live? What type of setting do you want for your wedding? That can help you decide.
We’re in Maine and if we choose to do a beach wedding we’ll do that in the summer. Fall here is also beautiful so we’re also considering fall wedding options too. If I lived in my hometown in California I would do a garden wedding in late spring/early summer.
Post # 12
LauraR: we went with fall for a few reasons- we love the foliage (in new england) and it will be cooler without being freezing. Summer, while very pretty, is high season for weddings so prices tend to be higher, and dates fill up quicker (but if you have lots of time, this might not be an issue for you). Since we live in new england, winter was out- couldn’t have some massive blizzard fly in and ruin the day (though I think in a big wedding dress, I wouldn’t mind the cooler temps!). I thought about spring, but knowing we have an outdoor ceremony made me worry about rain. Some spring months in this area could also get a last minute random snow storm too, and we wanted to avoid that.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2017 - Country Cottage and Gardens
Our hometown is northeast Ohio (Akron/Canton). I’ll be attending grad school in Boston but we’ll likely be having the wedding somewhere close to home so that people won’t have to travel. All the answers are really helpful! I definitely am a complete amateur as far as planning and I’m sure the site will be a huge help. Anything with finances will be the biggest motivator because we’ll be paying for everything ourselves. Hopefully by then he will have a stable job (he wants to be a collegiate athletic director) and I’ll be settling down as well. Is peak wedding season typically the same everywhere or would that vary by location? I definitely like the idea of saving money that way.
Post # 14
We were kind of limited in what we could pick, which made it easier. I’m the same as you, I love weddings from all seasons. Ideally, I think I would have loved a winter wedding. Unfortunately, I’m a teacher, which means getting time off during the school year is pretty much impossible unless it happens to fall during Christmas or Spring break which is not when I want to have my wedding!
Adding to that, I live across the country from my family/where the wedding will be, so I can’t just have a weekend wedding anytime- I need time to fly down and then back, which again, not possible during the school year when I can’t get time off.
So, we’re having a summer wedding. My SO’s job is very busy in July, so it’s hard for him to get time off, so we decided on August. My birthday is also in August, and I didn’t want the wedding too close to my birthday, so we looked at either the 1st or the 8th. The venue I loved was booked for the 1st, so the 8th it is! So in the end, our decision was pretty easy, as other factors basically made the choice for us.
Post # 15
We found a venue that we loved. It was outdoors, so our date was dictated by both that and his vacation schedule since he’s still in residency and was living on the opposite side of the country from where our wedding was held.