(Closed) How to choose a wedding date

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We picked the date we wanted, then when we picked the venue, the dates they had available changed (long story).  So, we changed ours by two weeks.  It was still the same rate and not so far off that we’ll have different weather or a change in rate.

In your case, I’d suggest picking what is most important to you about the wedding.  Is it a lovely garden/beautiful setting?  More wiggle room in the budget to spend on things other than the venue?  Make your plans accordingly.  

Best of luck and try not to stress too much!

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Is there at least pretty greenery at that time? (Sorry, I’m not too familiar with Northern Califorian Spring time – where I am from at the end of March everything is still dead and brown or covered in snow) I think if the place doesn’t look like a barren wasteland, go for it! Then you won’t be worrying about dying of heat in a heavy dress and you can get some kind of cute shawl/jacket/sweater thing ๐Ÿ™‚

 Good luck deciding!

Post # 5
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Newbee

Sometimes you are at the mercy of the venue. That is what we are faced with right now. Its less expensive to do it at the hotel we want on a Saturday night in December then it is in April. So just know that no matter what date you pick, its going to be one of the best days of your life…

Post # 6
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Newbee

Maybe check the Farmer’s Almanac for March?  If I recall, this year March in Northern CA was cool but not too gloomy – of course, I live on the east coast but just visit CA on occasion.  Although, Fiance and I were in Napa in March, and it was absolutely gorgeous.  While the flowers weren’t in full bloom, there were plenty of foliage and blossoms to be seen. 

I agree with missm. Pick what feels right to you, whether that means saving money on the venue and having additional decorating costs, or having the extra wow factor with all the flowers. 

Good luck deciding!  I definitely feel your pain. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Sparkles….I would go with what date feels best to you, not what the availability of the venue is.  I live in So. Cal and March can still be chilly,  so I would think No. Cal would be even more so.  I am getting married Aug. 8 (2 months!) at a winery here in So. Cal and it too will be in the garden, both ceremony and reception….we attended an event there earlier in the spring and it was very cool.  I’d go with a warmer date.  Is it cheaper to have it on a Friday?  It is at our venue so we went that route.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

was this at paradise ridge winery?  sorry i was just looking at their rates earlier today and it sounds familiar… anyways, i wouldn’t do march in N. Cal cause of the rain issue…  what other places are you looking at? anything more reasonably priced cause i’m looking in the bay area too.

Thanks.

 PS i think they say that other people are considering the dates just to get you to put the deposit down… at least it feels that way.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

i say go for april, the month when the venue is the most beautiful. you’ll save on decor/flowers at the very least. ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I did! There was only 1 date all year available at our venue, so that became our wedding date. =) It just happened to be in September (we wanted to get married in the fall, but didn’t really care when). It wasn’t like your situation though, where it was different pricing depending on the time of year.

We didn’t really have a set date in mind — it was more about calling up a number of venues and seeing when they were available.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We knew we wanted to get married in the summer of 2008, and there are so many other things going on in the summer here that sometimes it’s really hard to get a hotel room.  So we picked the dates that didn’t coincide with other events, and the venue we wanted was free on only one of those dates.  So that’s the date we chose.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

We picked our date because we had already planned a two-week trip to France that we decided to use as our honeymoon. That said, we are getting married at the end of August in Florida. Still, we have found some things that will make it managable – giving the guests little fans to keep them cook and holding it on the beach, which is usually windy.

You can’t predict when the flowers will be out and they could be early or late. Choose what feels right to you and don’t sweat the flowers or the weather. No matter what you choose, you might end up using a contingency plan.

Good luck!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m with Rebecca. We knew we wanted to get married in the Fall of ’08, but didn’t care which day. So we visited different places and when we decided on the place, we decided on the date because of what they had available. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Hey Sparkles.

I am also from N. Cal and after much consideration, we have decided on March 2009, but we were faced with the same dilemma as you.  We considered cold weather, but it’s better than hot weather I think, though we are not having a garden wedding.  The guest will only be exposed for about 5 min between the walk from the ceremony to the reception hall.  It is off season and everything is so much less expensive, including travel for Out of Town guest because we have about 60% of our guest from out of town.  NorCal is beautiful in the Spring beginning with March. 

We originally wanted to do it in May because it would be a little warmer, but the church we wanted to get married at did not have the right date and time for us, so the church was what dictated or date decision.  We worked around that date to find a reception site.  

Good luck with your decision.  As I came to find out after having made the decision, the date you choose is not really that important if it has everything else that you want.  The guests will show up and will have a good time whatever date you choose.

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