Post # 1
How did you decide on your E-ring? I thought I knew exactly what I wanted- a round bezel halo ring, but then I started looking at solitaires, cushions, and princess’ rings and I do not have a clue what I want anymore. I think that all of them are beautiful. HELP!
Post # 3
For me, the key was trying them on. I thought I wanted one thing, but when I tried it on, it just wasn’t me. I ended up picking out a vintage ring that I absolutely adore.
What I thought I wanted (pictures from website):
What I ended up with (personal pictures):
Post # 4
I went back and forth a lot about what kind of ring I thought I wanted. Like, at the beginning of my search, I was dead-set on a more modern-looking ring with a princess cut center, but ended up with a very dainty setting with a round center stone. It’s weird how things change like that. If you are finding that you like lots of different styles, then pick some good examples of your favorites and show them/email them to your SO and let him surprise you! I also agree with Ms.GoodEarth that you should go try some rings on. I have larger fingers, so I couldn’t actually get them alll the way on my hands when we went to look at rings, but ones I thought I liked online, I realized I didn’t like as much in person or on my finger.
But, I think the fact that you like so many different styles will only work in your favor. That probably means that you will be over the moon no matter what ring your SO picks for you!! 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with @CarolinaCola and @Ms.GoodEarth. I was deadset on a certain style… but living walking distance to the jewelry district and having a very patient SO allowed me to try on every single ring my heart desired. My fingers are larger than sample sizes so it was hard to imagine what it would actually look like, so that was a challenge.
The best piece of advice I received was “when you know, you just know” which I thought was a load of cr*p until it happened to me.
When you try something on, and can visualize wearing it for the rest of your life, then you’ve found the one! Kind of like a relationship and getting married 😉
Post # 6
Go to a really big store and try everything on! I knew I wanted a round stone because of the sparkles so that narrowed it down. Beyond that, we looked at EVERY ring in the store. I had one picked out that I thought I loved but I put it on my hand and it just wasn’t me. Then I tried another and we both were like, oh, that’s the one!
Post # 7
I think practical aspects of lifestyle are important to take into account. I’ve seen some gorgeous rings that have taken my breath away, but I knew I wouldn’t want to wear these rings every day. I think give yourself a few months to look around and find something that feels right. Your tastes may change as you look at rings, but something will click when you look at something that seems right. I had 2 rings I went back and forth between, that were completely different, then I saw 1 online that was as if these 2 rings had had a baby, and I’m in love!
I’m fairly active, clumsy, and would feel self-conscious with bling that was too big, so I looked at bezel and channel settings. I’m told I have dainty hands, so I could get away with a smaller ring. Also wanted something low-maintenance, so I kept that in mind as well.
Post # 8
I don’t understand the concept of chosing your own engagement ring. I mean I think its good to know what you generally would like… but ultimately your Fiance should surprise you.
For instance… I knew it was time for me to start getting interested in being engaged… the next step. So I started looking and thought I wanted a round diamond and I told my sister to remember because I knew that when the day that my Fiance decided it was time that he would turn to her for help.
It ended up that my Fiance went out of the country and actually purchased my diamond there and brought it home and had my sister and best friend help him pick the setting here in the US.
Well my engagement ring isn’t round, its square and its perfect. You know why? Because he picked it for me and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 9
@superh2ogirl: That’s fine for some people, but personally I am way too damn picky to be surprised by jewelry. If my SO is spending hundreds or thousands of dollars, I want to be over the moon happy with it if I’m the one who is wearing it forever. There are no rules about what anyone “should” do, every couple is different 🙂
And yes, I chose my own ring.
Post # 10
I agree with the PP. Stop the ring porn and get thee to a large store. In fact, go to many many stores with or without your SO. Then try ALL OF THEM ON–even the ones you think you’ll hate. You’d be surprised. I didn’t have the instant “this is the one” feeling. But every time I tried another ring on, I had to try this one on to compare. I realized that everything paled in comparison. I choose another one that was very similar, and Darling Husband picked the one he liked.
Post # 11
@eringuilford: Trying them on can REALLY help!
I thought I wanted a princess cut. & I love just about EVERYTHING! I love rounds, princess cuts, emerald, ect, ect, ect!!!!!!
But once I tried on my marquise solitaire I knew it was the one for me!
Post # 12
@superh2ogirl: I understand what you’re saying, but I think it depends on the person. And some men have taste that is not to be trusted.
My bf showed me a couple rings he liked. And you know what? I don’t think he could have showed me anything farther from my taste. The rings were literally my least favorite style of engagement ring. Since then, I’ve had no shame in showing him what I like. It’s expensive, and I’m going to be the one wearing it; I’d hate for him to spend that much on something I don’t like! Also, I’ve intentionally chosen metals and a sim that would make the ring more affordable; I don’t think he’d know enough about jewelry to make those sorts of decisions.
Post # 13
For me, I didn’t try on any ring. I always like the classic solitaires as long as I remember. I wants all the money goes into one big rock instead a rock and multiples smaller rocks. Husband knew what I like and as he put it “you told me that many many time”. I think I even told him that even before the engagement talk. LOL
Post # 14
my boyfriend really wanted to give me something traditional, something that screamed “ENGAGED”. lol. but I wanted something really special… and he wanted me to be happy, so he let me go custom! we designed a ring together, and worked closely with a master metalsmith to create something truly unique. the design still looks like a solitaire from far away, so while I get to have something no one else has, he gets to give a ring that he feels screams “ENGAGED”. ;D
also, I concur with what everyone else is saying about ‘you just know’. as soon as I saw the finalized CAD pics, I knew it was My Ring. can’t wait to get it on my finger!!
Post # 15
@KatyElle: For the record, I wasn’t bashing the decision to choose your own ring nor was I judging anyone who would chose their own ring. Maybe my wording “should” wasn’t what I intended but the snarky response was really unnecessary.
I understand some men are terrible at these things and it is personal preference. I was just trying to give the original poster a different perspective
Post # 16
@superh2ogirl: I love how anytime someone gives a differing opinion it’s snark.