(Closed) How To Choose BM Order?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did mine “alphabetical” (which also happened to be my favorites closest – sneaky sneaky)

I had my moh closest, my two best friends next (a and j) which I worked out as the alphabetical and we had an extra bridesmaid so I sold that to the one who went last (dh’s sister – k) as they got to be closer because she got a groomsmen (that happened to be her boyfriend) to herself. 

Post # 4
67 posts
Worker bee

You can do it however you want.  I did my Maid/Matron of Honor, then my 2 closest friends, then 3 who were family.  I don’t think anyone notices a “favorites” order, but alphabetical or height is the best way if you don’t want to feel like you’re picking on anyone.

Post # 5
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m doing favorites, and I don’t care if they don’t like it this is my wedding and they agreed to be in it. But honestly after you get past my Maid/Matron of Honor, I couldn’t really figure out favorites so i did it in order of knowing them after the first 2

Post # 6
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@SapphireSun:  the (sneaky sneaky) part made me chuckle at work

Post # 7
13073 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m doing Maid/Matron of Honor and then height-wise for everyone else.

Post # 8
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I did height, which was probably also degree-of-closeness based on length of time knowing them. i can’t say it as “Favorites” order, but it was harder for Darling Husband, so making it a “height” rule on both sides really helped. But asking them all their heights made it clear that we were using that order, so that was great. 

Post # 9
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Mine are in order of KIND of how long I’ve known them.  My maid of honor and I grew up together (and I was her maid of honor), then it’s my two best friends from college (we all lived on the same hall freshman year), and then my best friend from graduate school.  One of the best friends from college is my fiance’s younger sister, so she will be after my maid of honor.


Post # 10
8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m doing the order I asked them in. 

Post # 11
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I did it by how long I have known everyone. I had 7 girls, 2 are my sisters and were my MOHs. The rest I did by how long I knew them except my now SIL, who I threw in there after my best friend of 21 years, because since she was becoming family I thought it was important that she be higher up. 

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