(Closed) how to choose bridesmaids?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i just asked who i wanted. i ended up with six BMs and 2 GMs.  and this was when my wedding was going to be 30 guests max including bridal party!  in the end, i have 17 guests, 4 BMs (2 cant come) and 1 Groomsmen.

so i say, ask who you want to be up there with you regardless of number.

Post # 5
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

it sounds like you each have six people that you *want* to be up there with you on your big day, and the only thing holding you back are the “rules” (by the way, I’d never even heard of that rule before, hehe). but yes, I guess more people can often mean more drama – so choose wisely and just make sure that those are people who will truly support you.

Post # 6
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Is your wedding date really 10/20/12? If so, I’d wait a while (probably until after the first of the year). There are so many posts about brides choosing their BMs too soon and all the drama that ensues. I’ve also had experiences with this, so if I could do it over again, I’d wait until closer to the wedding to choose mine then I originally did.

If you decide to wait, during this time, you can pay special attention to the little details of each friendship, and I think when the time comes for you to choose, you’ll know for sure who you want to pick.

Post # 7
865 posts
Busy bee

I’m stumped about the BM/GM situations so you’re not alone. My boy only has two friends he’s actually close with and I’m torn between three friends, his sister, my niece, my cousin and my sisters.  I really want each side to be even though..sigh.

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