Post # 1
Im trying to figure out how to choose the bridesmaid order.
I put my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor because i couldn’t choose between my friends and hurt there feelings. (Even though i really wanted my best friend.) We had a falling out for a year but recently got talking again and things haven’t changed as if we never faught.
My future SIL is married to one of the groomsmen. Should i pair her up with him just because they are married?
I just dont want to hurt peoples feelings .
Post # 3
I would probably pair the married couple together…
How would it pan out if you ordered them based on height? (With the exception of the honor attendants.) Even if, the married couple didn’t get paired together for the ceremony, I would make sure they still were announced together for the reception, danced together, if you have a bridal party dance, and sit next to each other, at dinner.
Post # 4
I would also pair the married couple if possible. For my bridal party, I also pretty much paired people by height with the exception of the MOH/Best Man. I think if you let everyone know you are pairing them by height their feelings won’t be too hurt by the situation.
Post # 5
I know this may sound weird but all of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are 5"2 lol so the height wont work lol. im 5"9 haha
The married couple i was going to let them sit together and walk out together but your right they dont have to stand in order because not like they will be standing next to each other in the ceremony. I was going to do a sweetheart tabel because i figured its nicer for people who has significant others not in the bridal party to not sit alone.
Post # 6
Could you do in order of height by the guys then? That is nice about letting people sit with their significant others…that’s also why we did a sweetheart table.
Post # 7
Mine will be in order based on the color they’re wearing. Each is in something different and the colors look best in a particular order. The guys were then put in order based on who looked the best walking with each girl (not putting the skinny guy with the plus-size girl, etc.) Using something visual as an excuse is definitely a good way to keep feelings unhurt.
Post # 8
Wow, all the same height. Well if you are looking to be diplomatic and not hurt feelings, how about just doing it in order of whose birthday comes first, or who knew you the longest, or just plain alphabetical order….Don’t stress to much about it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I’m doing descending order of how long I’ve known each girl — sister and Maid/Matron of Honor last, then longest friend, second longest, etc.
Post # 10
I have two MOH’s I’ve known the same amount of time. One of their husband’s will be a groomsman, so I am putting her second so she’ll walk out with her husband. I like the "out" of having spouses to put together!
Post # 11
I think im going to do who ive known the longest. That would work best. O well people cant get but hurt its for less then 15 mins.
🙂 haha Thanks girls!
Post # 12
I would probably do height. I walked down a few aisles with groosmen who were married to other bridesmaids simply because of height. It doesn’t really matter at all. We were even announced together during the entrance despite the fact that the wife was also in the bridal party. It’s not a big deal.
Post # 13
Mine will be
1. Sister/MOH + Brother/BM
2. BFF since elementary school + friend who traveled the longest to get to the wedding
3. BFF since high school + another friend who came from far away
4. former and favourite roomie of all time + a cousin who travelled from far away
5. a cousin + a local friend
6. junior Bridesmaid or Best Man + junior Groomsmen
The bride’s side was done by length known and the grooms side was done by a combination of distance travelled and height considerations for the roomie who requested a taller partner. A little strange, but it worked for us. 🙂
Post # 14
Wow…I didn’t even think about this much. I just made sure my Maid/Matron of Honor went last so that she could stand closest to the register to sign it. And then I let one of the other bridesmaids go second so she could walk back with her husband who was on my groom’s side.
And there were no issues at dinner because there was no head table. I know some people love them, but personally, I would rather my bridesmaids and groomsmen sit with their significant others rather than being on display for the evening. I also didn’t want to be the centre of attention/on display as well so we made sure to address that issue too. My now-husband and I sat at a family table with my parents, his parents and our grandmothers – it was a round table like everyone else’s in the room. That worked best for us!
Post # 15
I was just thinking about this the yesterday! My sister-in-law and brother are the bridal party and I figure they will walk together– other than that, I was thinking height (since I am the shortest of everyone) pairs.
In my brothers wedding– they didn’t want to have to "choose" and make anyone feel bad…so they did alpabetical (spelling?). It worked!
Post # 16
Maybe ill do who knows me longest. Good idea