- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I’m starting to feel at a loss for what I should say to my friend who is extremely discouraged over her job search. She has been unemployed for the better part of the past five years (primarily due to health reasons, but that is no longer the issue). Her last round of job hunting lasted well over a year, but she finally found a position she seemed happy with this past summer. Fast forward to last week, she hated it (her boss would berate her in front of the office) and had her resignation letter ready to hand in on Monday . . . and then her boss fired her by text before she arrived at work Monday morning. It’s all understandably very upsetting and frustrating to be back at square one, but now she is sending me multiple texts everyday about how depressed this is making her and I want to help, but I am running out of things to say that don’t feel trite and overused. I am fortunate to have never suffered a prolonged job search, so I don’t have too much personal info to commiserate with. I’ve tried offering resume advice over the years, but I don’t know how much she actually opts to use it.
So here is my question to the hive: if you’ve ever spent a significant period of time unemployed, what did you appreciate hearing from your friends? Or what did you need to hear? I want to be there for her as her friend, but the barrage of depressed messages is getting me down. There’s only so many ways I can say “keep your head up and keep applying, something better will come along”.