- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: June 2019
The title says it all.
I’ve posted about my sister on here before, but the long trek to the end finally ended this past week, when she quit high school, moved in with her terrible 20-year-old boyfriend who works part-time and has no driver permit, and has told our mother that she is trying for a baby with him. She is 18.
She has been extremely narcissistic her entire life and also has BPD. She unfriend everyone she is related to on Facebook, and posts nothing but sexual memes and “tell me I’m pretty please :(((” posts. Family friends have expressed concern, and in her TikToks she tells the world that she grew up in an abusive home and she is terrible at loving anyone because of “trauma” and no one understands her except her boyfriend.
Guys, she’s my sister. I lived with her. We also have four other sisters (there are six of us) that claim this is all attention-seeking nonsense, and burning bridges for fun. Her boyfriend encourages her to never visit, and she listens to him.
Our mother has negotiated with her to spend an hour with her a week. None of the rest of us, even our father (who is still furious with her), see her at all. We try to reach out, but we get one-word responses.
Our grandfather is also a narcissist and had ten children. None of them have a relationship with him anymore because he has caused such emotional hell with all of them, going so far as to say at my uncle’s wedding that he wished he had never been born, because “Tom was always the charmer in the family” – it’s been awful.
Now that I have a child, she demands a relationship with him. She’s only 18 – she’s mentally ill yes, but she’s also naive. She doesn’t, and may never, understand how to be the kind of aunt my son deserves. My husband is telling me he doesn’t want her to ever have a relationship with him.
And now that my sister is out of my parents’ house, that’s a lot easier. But I still wish my son could know his aunt.
Any advice? Especially from people with a narc relative? How do you deal? 🙁 Sorry this is so long.