(Closed) How to convince FH & parents that videographer is a must?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Is a wedding video a must?
    Yes! : (20 votes)
    41 %
    No! : (29 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013


    We got a videographer. It honestly wasn’t a priority for me, but my husband really wanted one.  He didn’t want just any old videographer.  He wanted the best.  So, we got one.  I haven’t seen the final product yet, but I can honestly say I am SO glad that we decided to hire one.  The wedding day was such a whirlwind.  There was so much going on that I really didn’t have time to process what was going on.  I pretty much have very little memory of the wedding because everything was moving so fast. I’m excited to see the video because I want to be able to re-live the wedding and actually see what it was like.  My husband and I think that the video will be us finally enjoying our wedding.


    However, that being said, lots of peopel dont have videographers, and they don’t regret it at all.


    Post # 4
    9952 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012


    BUT HOW to convince someone else to pay for it is beyond me…

    We ended up not having video at our Wedding (actually I didn’t have it at my first Wedding either because it was uber expensive in 1980).

    And once again, I regret it.

    But it didn’t work well this time logistically… I miss it, but like I did the first time I’m sure I’ll eventually get over it.

    We do have decent Wedding Pics.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 5
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I wish we had had a videographer. Like others have said many times, the whole day is just a whirlwind – I’m lucky I’ve got a cousin who was making a mental note of anything exciting that happened and wrote them all down for me afterwards, so I’ve got that “memory”

    To be honest, I don’t think it needs to be a top-of-the-range videographer. Even a friend with a video camera to capture your vows, the speeches, dancing, and a few comments from guests is really all you need.

    Post # 6
    7673 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @goingtotherooftopoflove: The perspective of someone who married 20+ years ago… 

    I don’t know about a “must” but it’s very nice. I don’t think the video of me walking down the aisle (our equivalent to “first look”) is that magical. But what I do like is that it captures the general look and sounds of the day, in ways the photographer can’t. Including little snippets of people who have since died. Also it’s nice to have the speeches on video. We watch it every couple of years now.

    We got a hobbyist friend to do it for free. So I’m sure it’s not as good as a pro video, but it’s a lot better than if some random relative had done it on his phone or cheap camera. (If that had been possible back then). So if you’re short on money, maybe a friend or student could do it for free or for not much? But find someone who knows what they’re doing.

    Post # 7
    8725 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We had a videographer that was thrown in for free by our vendor. I have watched it maybe twice much like my skydiving video. Would I pay for it, nope. I think given that it would be stretching the budget and putting financial strain on you and your Fiance then you should skip it (or cut something else to compensate).

    But I really think that you shouldn’t be asking anyone else to fund it for you.

    Post # 8
    1478 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    Cant you get a friend to just do the mai stuff?? Ceremony, speeches and maybe a few well wishes after that?? I dont think its worth putting a finiacial strain on you and FH for a video 

    Post # 9
    2122 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

    I’m not married yet but I do intend to get a video and I’m prepared to splash out for a good one.

    I made a video documentary of the time I climbed Mt Fuji and put some music to it. Compared with looking at photos, the sounds, movements and the silly interviews I did with my friends as we were climbing were all captured and it brings it all back in ways that the photos don’t.

    If you’re not bothered, I’d say ask guests to video the best bits on their digital camera and you can put together a compilations yourself in your own time a few months later using software on your computer. Better than nothing, I say!

    Post # 10
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I really wanted one, Fiance was indifferent… I convinced him by showing examples of gorgeous cinematic wedding videos.  After seeing those, he wanted them.. and I think he ended up willing to spend more money on it than I was!  I think just a general argument is that the day is such a whirlwind, it’ll be great to be able to go back and watch events unfold and see any moments you might’ve missed as well.  You can also think of it like this: a wedding is a once in a lifetime event, possibly the biggest party you will ever throw and the biggest gathering of your loved ones (both relatives and friends) you will host.  If you can, you should have as many memories as you can from it!

    Post # 11
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wish we had one because the ceremony was such a blur I don’t remember anything about it!  

    Post # 12
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @leecy87:  +1. We just had a family friend take video (MOH’s dad) and he put it on a DVD for us. It’s not fancy with music and such, but memory-wise, I’m happy. I had beautiful photographs, and am happy looking at those 🙂

    Post # 13
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We had a family member videotape important moments (ceremony, first dance, father/daughter dance, cake cutting, some partying) and it’s honestly enough. I definitely care much more about the pictures, the pictures will be viewed more often, and I was able to use that money that would have gone to a videographer in a million other places. Some people think it’s necessary, but I am so happy I didn’t bother. It’s enough to just have the first kiss etc on tape, it didn’t need to be a fancy professional video. 




    My parents had a pro videographer. They’ve looked at their video maybe twice in 30 years. I just personally didn’t think it was worth the money, I knew I’d rather spend the money elsewhere.


    Edit: My uncle who did the video also was able to videotape the rehearsal dinner and did a cute little interview w/ my Darling Husband and I (separately) the night before the wedding and cut that into the video for us (so we saw what the other had said that we didn’t get to see before the wedding, it was nice). Another nice bonus of just having a family member do it, something we wouldn’t have gotten with a pro 🙂

    Post # 14
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Totally not necessary. I don’t regret not having one at all. You won’t spend the rest of your life wistfully watching your first look on repeat, I promise. You will look at it a few times right after the wedding, and then it will be buried on your hard drive or on a DVD in a drawer for decades. Not worth the money, IMO. If you want it that badly, and nobody else sees the value, you’ll either have to pay for it yourself or just go without.

    Post # 15
    6586 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I am so glad we hired a cinamatographer. Our film is beautiful and it makes me smile every time I watch it. That being said, I would not feel comfortable talking someone into paying for it. If you can’t afford it yourself, you can’t afford it. 

    Post # 16
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I had to convince my parents (becuase they are paying for some of my wedding). I did this by showing them wedding videos that I liked and when my mom started crying at other peoples wedding videos, she realized that she wanted to have those moments with mine. So she was sold! However, we did pick someone who was a little more budget friendly…so it was a compromise. 

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