- Ashleigh Brown
- 3 years ago
I (20) was with my partner(27) for 3 years, it was long distance so that was a struggle and in the 3 years we haven’t really done or achieved much as a couple, nor spent any long amounts of time together (I think the max was about 4 days in a row for weekends away)
recently, he freaked out when I mentioned us getting engaged, like snapped at me saying I was forcing him into it by mentioning rings and “hinting” but he had played along until he snapped and then he says he doesn’t want me to move to him if all I want to do is spend my time with him (Moving to him would mean a new place, a new job, new friends and no family), like that should be the last thing he’s saying to me, his partner, when discussing our future.
I do realise he didn’t treat me the best.. he forgot our 3 year anniversary on the 05/01 but when I mentioned that he said how dare I accuse him of that, that actually there was something in the post to me… but couldn’t answer any of my questions so I think/know he went online to order a card and box of chocs next day via Royal Mail when he said courier (note- we had been In london for NYE and I saw a beautiful necklace with real rose buds in them, really wanted one but didn’t get it, after London I found a website which sold it so I thought he’d get it for me… which would have been
3. I would of got it on time as I didn’t even get the card or chocs until 4 days after our anniversary as he knew I was at work and not be home to receive it) not once did he mention our anniversary to me either before any of this, and made no effort to make it special at all, he went back to base on the 4th Jan so we couldn’t spend our actual anniversary together and he knows he always misses our anniversary, birthdays, Valentine’s Day and he’s never made an effort to make any of these days special. EVER. So I was majorly annoyed about our 3 years. Super crap anniversary! Doesn’t take much to buy roses and give something a day early!
I do love him, but I want to be with someone who appreciates me and values me and is thoughtful – the amount of times he forgets things about us is ridiculous.
I ended things on Sunday, he fought it for a while then he just kinda accepted it, so me being stupid, I rang him crying saying idk what to do and he said we’ll have a break and talk soon but didn’t say when and now every time I try to text or call He won’t have any of it, says he’s busy when he’s clearly posting on social media. I get i need to give him time, I guess I just didn’t expect him to accept it so quickly and I always thought he’d want to talk to me no matter what, but he has no interest (understandably I guess).
I want to move On, we both weren’t happy and had two completely different life goals, he’s in the raf away all the time, no interest in travelling and I work in adult social care and want to travel asap and it would be my life I had to sacrifice for him, which I wouldn’t mind if it was appreciated lol.
Anyway, ranting a bit…
I’m not ready to move on but I want to stop being sad about him and the loss of the relationship, the thought of him with anyone makes me sick, and the thought of me having to meet new people, not being able just to kiss and cuddle etc whenever, to lay in bed and tickle each others arm, I’m so used to my ex I don’t want anyone else nor him… And then I don’t want to be alone!!! Anyone have any tips for a very confused girl?? 😂