- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
A little over a month after getting married, I’m still trying to cope with all of the wedding mishaps that add all together to a nearly ruined day.
Here’s the tally:
A week before the wedding the yacht we were going to have the ceremony & reception breaks down so we have to have it at the restaurant that hosts the yacht.
Dress was too large in the waist and thus didn’t fit right, not to mention I looked frumpy and heavier than I actually am. And we spent almost a grand on the damn thing, you really want to feel and look your best. Probably the most heartbreaking of all the problems.
The day of, the restaurant’s A/C went out. So we were all melting- it was over 100F that day of course…
The bridesmaid’s bouquets didn’t turn out like I wanted. They were supposed to be mostly roses, large and lush and instead they had huge hydrangeas with two spray roses. Not even close to what I had wanted.
Because it was going to be on the yacht I wore sandals (when I so desperately wanted heels) and didn’t have a train because of steep stairs and didn’t end up having to do so. Also I would have totally done a different theme on the wedding had I known how the venue would end up. The restaurant is on a marina so it’s kind of watery/mermaidy themed and our colors are yellow and green. Didn’t really go, at ALL.
The venue did not have a single employee working only our wedding, it was only employees already scheduled for a shift at the restaurant and they were quite busy, so we had very poor service.
I forgot the marriage license and our wedding started an hour late because of it and because of that the food wasn’t as delicious as it could have been having sat for an hour longer.
We did not have all of the food and beer options previously agreed upon with the venue.
For the ceremony area at the restaurant they didn’t take down or cover up any of the restaurant-y decorations (bud light glow signs (it was off, but it’s still in all the damn pictures) and fish/mermaid decorations for a green and yellow etherial themed wedding -.- kind of out of place…) and it is in ALL of the ceremony pictures. It kind of ruins them. We have a gigantic bud light sign behind us at our romantic first kiss.
Oh and the ceremony music didn’t work so we walked down the aisle silently.
They didn’t have the correct number of chairs or tables and me and the groom and about a dozen other people had no where to sit at dinner.
The reverend was a jerk and couldn’t stop telling me about how lucky we were to have his presence here in kind of a patronizing way. Also he was so nice to include a pamphlet about getting tested for HIV with a keepsake copy of our ceremony. Gee thanks.
Also the reverend’s photographer aspiring son put up his camcorder behind our ceremony alter (next to the Bud Light sign) and he’s standing behind us in half of the pictures adjusting it mid-ceremony. Definitely NOT who I wanted to be in those. “Awww, they look so sweet reciting their vows. Who’s the guy in the baseball cap behind them?”
It was fun and I got to marry my best friend, but I’m just so sad that after all the planning there isn’t one aspect I can look back on and go “That’s just what I wanted.”
It feels so unfair that so many other women get the wedding of their dreams, or at least one pleasant thing about their wedding that they wanted and I spent all the money and did all the leg work and didn’t get jack.
How to cope???