(Closed) How to cope with an unhappy wedding day?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh man, that is just awful. I’m so sorry it turned out that way. I think you ought to take your list of complaints with your venue straight to them and get a partial refund and a big apology. I know it doesn’t make up for them ruining your wedding, but maybe they’ll think a littlle harder before ruining someone’s else’s wedding.

Post # 5
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That really sucks and I’m so sorry you are disappointed with so many aspects of your special day. I think you deff have a good case for a partial refund for the venue- make a start on going abou getting some money back- you can use the money for something positive you and your husband can enjoy- a special holiday etc. With regards to your pictures being ruined by the bud sign and weird son of your reverend- I’d imagine someone very handy with photoshop could help eliminate these elements from most of your photos- at least then you’ll have pictures you’re happy with.

Unfortunately you can’t turn back time so you need to focus on all the positives of your day. I’d imagine your guests weren’t aware of most of the issues you’ve mentioned and had a great day regardless. Hope you feel better about this soon- happy thoughts 😀

Post # 6
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@abqueen: Oh, dear lady, my heart goes out to you. I’m so very sorry you had to put up with such frustrations and that you are so sad after so much planning and care. I completely agree with Elvis about giving the pertinent facts to the venue to see if they can compensate for their lack o’ planning and how, although in the end they did accommodate you, some of what happened was probably not what you originally agreed to in your contract. Look it over carefully, then contact them.

Next, make a list of everything you *are* thankful for that happened that day. C’mon, there’s gotta be something. The fact that so-and-so was able to attend? The fact that through it all, you and your spouse persevered?

Last, declare a re-do…of sorts. Why not have a small, intimate, romantic vow renewal, perhaps for your anniversary? Find a special establishment, a kinder officiant, a lovely dress that fits you just right (or the same one altered better for you), a more artistically and spatially aware photographer, have a special time just the two of you and get some awesome photos!

I hope this will all help you cope, find happiness and happier memories.

Post # 7
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - St Aloysius' College, Milson's Point

Firstly, I am so sorry that this has happened to you! However, I agree with previous posters, you should definitely be able to get a partial refund from your venue, it was not your fault that the yacht broke down, it was theirs! Is there anything in the contract?

At the end of the day, please remember that you have your husband and the marriage is more important than the wedding. Although I can completely understand how sad you would be.

Post # 8
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with PPs that a lot of your complaints are with the venue and their inability to deliver the service you expected. If you have not taken it up with them, you really need to set up an appointment and go over hwat happened and how it diverged from your contract/expectations. Certainly, I would expect you got a refund for using the restaurant instead of the boat but I would talk to your contact about your disapointment in the staff and level of service. As far as the decorations, I think you can bring it up but unless they previously told you they would remove the normal decor or you asked them to do so, I don’t think you can hold this against them. I do believe they should not have charged you the same for the restaurant as the boat though, particuarly if you did not have your own staff.

As far as the reverand, I’m not sure if it is worth your time to tal to him. In hindsight, you should have not allowed his son to video tape but there’s nothing you can do about that now other than express to him your dissatisfaction with his presence.

Now it is time to focus on the positive. Did you have a nice dance with your husband, enjoy friends and relatives from out of town? Do you have some great photos to look back on and see a more positive view? Yes you altered your atire to fit a venue you didn’t have but I’m sure it looked great. To think positively, at least they had a restaurant with enough capacity that you didn’t have to find a new venue 1 week out. Additionally, you didn’t have a hurricane to deal with like many brides last weekend.

Post # 9
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yayy, you’re married!! Congrats, girlie!

I can’t imagine the heartbreak you’re feeling about your wedding day not going the way you hoped/planned. I am so sorry. 🙁

I also think there is a good case for a partial refund from the venue.

Other than that, all you can do is to focus on the good things (surely there’s something, right?). Did the reverend’s son manage to make a lovely video of your vows (without a budlight sign/himself in the shot)?

For something to look forward to, I do agree with the pp about setting up a vow renewal for your anniversary.

I’m definitely feeling for ya. That totally sucks how everything turned out. :/

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