- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I had a short dramatic relationship with an ex bf. We were so into each other and fell in love on first sight when we were young (I was 19 and he was 21)… then it was long distant for 6 months and when he went back to town for short vacation… he broke it off. Fast forward 10 years later, I was out of a serious relationship. We met again because he relocate back to the same City. The only thing is he has a wife, to be exact, he jump into a marrigae that he only dated that woman for less than 6 months and the woman is not Canadian. She told him either they got married or she just move back to Asia once her visa expired…. so she married him.
But things changed quickly, she has no intention to learn English or stay in Canada with him and knowing his professionl required him to stay in Canada for at least good couple years. So their marriage is weird, she only stay in Canada for few months during the year, the rest, she stay in Asia as she has few rental properties in Asia to manage….
while he was considering divorce, we met again…. It was all good old friend catching up and the longer we chat, the more spark created between us… yes, I made the wrong decision and went out with him. We just can’t control the insane feeling for each other.. .. he was all ready to divorce her (that was a decision he made before met me again, with me showing up in his life again, just expedited things) …. Then once he told her about the divorce, she suddenly got *pregnant* (she is in his late 30, almost 40)….. so he felt that he should not divorce her because of the child….and miracle happened, once he said he will stay with her, she told him she did surgery already…..
Anyways, he cried and said his hands are tied and he has to be responsible… I, once again, heart broken by the very same man but I respect his decision and move on…..
Their marriage didn’t change, and only get worse but I decided to move on. Come on, the same man hurt me twice, I’m not going to give him the 3rd chance plus I met a very sweet man that taking care of me and spoil me. … but this ex bf can’t let go of me, I understand where he coming from because the chemistry is just so strong between us.
During the past 4 years, sometimes he email me like he got over me… soemtimes he will be very sentimental. Each time i remind him I have a very caring boyfriend that love me…. fast forward to now, I somehow check a very old inbox and read all the old emails between him and me……..it got me so emotional and I finally told him, being engaged and getting married in few months. I don’t think it’s wise for us to keep in touch like that. I have a great relationship with my Fiance and I don’t want to do anything to harm our marriage.
He immmeidately reply back to me say that he doesn’ tknow what happen in the future but he doesn’t want me disappear in his life and swear to me that he doesn’t want anything from me. I just continues delete all his msg and emaills………and today, he suddenly email me that there was a moment that he felt like calling me… I just deleted his email and now he send me another email talking about a gun shoot in our area (we live in the same area) like nothinig had happened.
Bees, How do I let him know that I’m serious on cutting him off in my life??? I seriously done everything I could to ignore him…. I don’t know what else I can do to let him understand I love my Fi and I don’t want to cheat on him