Post # 1
I am writing because I don’t know what else to do. I am so stressed out, I have been having what I think are panic attacks over the last two weeks. I have never felt that anxious before but I have felt my heart beating strangely in the middle of nothing (even when I’m not upset).
Anyhow I picked up my dress yesterday and I don’t even like it that much but it’s the one I have. I haven’t even bought a veil yet and my mother is asking me about gloves but I don’t have any friends to join me veil-shopping. My idea is to find a veil online but I don’t know what kind at all.
I only have one maid of honor, my sister, and we don’t have her dress picked out yet. When I received my wedding gown yesterday, the store associate gasped and basically made me feel stupid because I don’t have the bridesmaid dress yet.
I haven’t even figured out the wedding ceremony yet because I haven’t gotten a hold of my pastor. And now I am stressing about the fact that I haven’t booked my hair and makeup.
This is on top of the fact that I just moved out of my apartment and I have to commute over an hour to work for the next few weeks until I settle into my new place. I am so tired, I just want to quit my job. I am planning this wedding cross-country and I feel so overwhelmed,
Someone please tell me I’m not going crazy. I know there are brides out there that plan their wedding in less than 3 months. Even though I’m going to have one year of planning, I still feel like this is too much. What to do?
Post # 3
@limeade: ok after reading you post…first and foremost i need you to breathe very slowly because i am feeling a little stressed out for you. and to answer your question no you are not crazy at all. i know that it must be really hard not to much very hectic for you to be planning a wedding cross country without a support system or someone to go veil shopping with. so my suggestion to you would be why don’t you start by looking online and in some bridal magazines for pictures of veils that you might like one site i can think of is http://www.khristinaeatonltd.com or if you decided that you don’t want a veil maybe a really nice hair accessory might be better. i don’t really know what style of dress you picked out and i can see that you don’t really care for it much but i hope that your wedding planning experience gets better soon.
i am planning a vow renewal for next may myself and i am basically do everything on my own. i even bought my dress by myself which was better for me because the one dress shop i want to made me feel super pressured. i am not really sure when you wedding is. however, i think the best destress for me have been taking breaks from wedding planning by reading books, cooking, exercising. and when i go back into planner mode i feel more revived and ready to go at it again. good luck on everything.
Post # 4
@limeade: I think there are a lot of us who hit a wall at one point during planning. I know that I did and I started to panic because I felt like I had been dragging my feet. However, it only lasted for a little bit and I was able to pick myself up out of it. You will too, even though right now everything just seems so overwhelming.
Focus on the things that keep you happy. Even just some of the little things. Keep your head up and keep venting to us. It’s good to get it out.
Post # 5
i’m feeling the same you are – stressed and anxious in the middle of nothing. unfortunately i have no tips, i’m just comiserating. :/
Post # 6
I’ve been there before. Actually I’m there now but I’m not planning a wedding, mine’s all over and done with, but life keeps throwing stress my way.
Some things that have helped me:
* I can’t say enough for a relaxing candlelit bubble bath. When I’m stressed, I usually take one a day. For some reason, it calms me down like nothing else. I light some candles, put some bubbles in, get a glass of wine and a book, and just chill out.
*Taking walks is something that is helpful to me as well. Whether it’s just with the dog or Darling Husband or both, it’s calming.
*Working out is a great stress/anxiety reliever! And it’s healthy 🙂
Post # 7
Okay breathe =) It’ll all be ok. I second the “candlelit bath” idea. Buy some lush and relax! =)
Onto the specifics:
There’s a store called “value veils” online, they sell nice and inexpensive veils. You could also try etsy! Definitely purchase this before the hair trial.
Don’t worry about the hair/makeup trial. You can honestly push it off until May/June! Just find someone and book. =)
Don’t worry about the Maid/Matron of Honor dress (and the dumb SA!) you can find some really adorable dresses at J.Crew or Anthropologie =) Or even David’s bridal!
The wedding ceremony can be worked on slowly over time. I suggest finding bits and pieces of ceremonies you like (online) and when you finally meet with pastor, show him your ideas.