Post # 1
A little backstory: my boyfriend and I live in a house several blocks from the beach in Venice, CA. There are many tourists/visitors here every day so parking is very hard to come by. We’re lucky enough to have a driveway for our cars that is enclosed by a rolling, wooden gate. To keep our property and house safe, we close the gate each time we leave the house. This means that we pull out of the driveway, pull over to the side of the street, get back out of the car, close the gate, then get back in a drive away. It’s actually a huge hassle.
Anywaaay, last week when I was coming home, I pulled over next to a parked car and began to get out to open the gate. A woman came around the car and was clearly irritated, but I smiled and explained that I was just getting out to open my gate. She started getting mad so I pulled away from her car, turned around, then got out and opened the gate and went inside my house. I could hear her complaining loudly to her friend or husband or someone but I chalked it up to her just being a b—- and brushed it off.
Now today, I pull over, get out, and she comes out of (what I have now learned is) her house. She starts SCREAMING “Why the f— do you do this? Move your g–d— car right now! I’m calling your landlord AND the f—ing cops and getting you evicted, you f—ing b—-! You don’t own s—!” Now I am a nice personal and am not good at confrontation, not to mention I was actually talking to my mom on my bluetooth at that exact second so I was distracted. So I said something slightly smartass like “Okay, you do that. You’re a wonderful neighbor, have a good Christmas!”
Now, I don’t care if she calls my landlord – it’s my boyfriend’s mom. And I don’t care if she calls the cops because I will tell them what happened and what she did, and they are likely more rational than this crazy lady. But I don’t want to have to be screamed at in public daily! My boyfriend wants to go talk to her but I honestly don’t think it will help – she is clearly nuts and I just want to stay safe and confrontation-free.
What would you girls do? Would you call the cops? Have you ever had to deal with crazy neighbors?
Post # 3
I had a crazy neighbor too! We rented the last house on a dead end street, and she was the second to last one right next to us. Well she hated people turning around in her driveway. One moring I take the newpaper out of the plastic sleeve and a note falls out, I guess the delivery guy uses her driveway to turn around in. She demanded that the delivery guy not use her driveway, and since we are the last house on the street it was our fault and our problem to take care of. Previous to this the only contact we had was when she introduced herself and said she hoped we were not like the last tenant who smeared dog poop under her car door handles…lol. I did call the newspaper and asked them to let the delivery guy know, but it didn’t work all the time so i canceled the paper, because she continued to leave notes. (by the way this was a very small house and driveway and for her to come leave notes in the paper and on the car meant she was a foot from our bedroom window, way too creepy for me!) The last straw was a friend came to visit one evening, and when he left he made the grave sin of backing up in her drive to turn around. Well she must have been waiting or something, cause she came out flug open is truck door and got in his face!!! We heard it happen, so I called the cops. She got warned never to step on “our” property or she would be arrested for tresspassing. The cops thought she was crazy too, after talking to her! Our landlord was my boss at the time and they had issues with her before also, and afer this incident they had their lawyer send a letter to her. So my two cents… if she is gonna act crazy i would call the cops. I used it as a last resort because it is better/ easier to get along with your neighbors, but sometimes they get way out of line. You shouldn’t have to be harrassed everytime you come home or leave. She should understand that you are not parking there, and get over it. I hope it works out and gets better for you. Good luck!
Post # 4
Is there any way you can avoid pulling up right next to her car or in front of her house? I know it’s a hassle you don’t need, and she sounds batshit crazy, but in my experience with batshit crazy folks the best solution is usually avoidance.
Calling the cops would only escalate the crazy, imo.
Post # 5
She sounds nuts. I would most certainly not be going over to talk to her though – you never know HOW crazy.
As far as cops? Probably not yet. BUT you could call and say something, just in case she does this over and over again, I’m sure having “proof” that she is a bit off would help if this ever escalates. Sorry. :/
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’d keep a log of the things she’s said and the dates, so that if you ever do need to call the cops (because she’s become threatening or has vandalized your property) you have a record. Otherwise, I’d just try to ignore it as much as I could.
Post # 7
Update: boyfriend got home and I told him about it, he went over to our other neighbors’ house (who we are friendly with). They said that this lady is crazy and parking is just her “thing,” like your neighbor, pinkb!
So I’m going to specifically avoid pulling in front of her driveway (as much as it pains me to do what she wants), meanwhile the boyf says he’s going to keep pulling in front of her driveway on purpose until she comes out to talk to him (for some reason, it seems like she’s targeting me even though he probably does it more). Stupid, yes, but he’s gonna do what he’s gonna do.
Thanks for all the advice – @spaniel: I will do that. Thanks!
Post # 8
We should sic Italian Lady on her.