Post # 1
Hey everyone! I need some advice!! Just recently my fiancé has cheated on me with a girl he had just met. I do not know how to deal with this situation, should I be with him or should I not be with him? So I will give you the details of what happened. It was a Saturday night and he had gone out with his friends. They all decided it was smart to get very drunk together. My fiancé’s friend is single and decided to invite girls over to his house. They all continued to get drunk together and my fiancé ended up laying down next to one of the girls and making out with her. It only lasted a minute before he came to his senses and jumped out of bed saying “I can’t do this” the next day he felt extremely guilty and called me telling me everything that happened. He cried so hard and begged me not to leave him and said how big of a mistake it was and he would never do it again.
I am very hurt that he made such a stupid decision but I don’t know if its enough to end an engagement because of it. I have never seen him so hurt and so regretful… Please help me!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I personally would leave the relationship for a bit while I healed from the betrayal of trust. If you feel like you can trust him again, I’d say try to work it out. I don’t think I’d be able to personally. It’s never okay to cheat in my book, drunk or sober.
HUGS. I know it must hurt a lot right now! ):
Post # 4
Dump his sorry ass….don’t look back.
Post # 5
He should have felt guilty IMMEDIATELY.
“Next day” his drunk, sorry ass.
Post # 6
It was a one-time thing. While it’s going to be difficult to trust him again, I’d try to stay with him. He felt guilty 3 seconds later and told you about it the next day, which is a good thing (given the situation).
Post # 7
hed be saying goodbye to pokemon!!
Post # 8
I’d start at the BEGINNING- why did he think it was a good idea/ acceptable to tag along with a friend to a private house party with single girls.
Was he feeling neglected, hurt, mad, stressed out that lead hi to seek out attention from another women. I think often when someone cheats its becasue something was missing or lacking from the relationship in the first place. Now read correctly I’m not claiming it was you who pushed him into this sitation I’m asking you to dig a little deeper and try to find out why he was in that situation in the first place. Finding the truth or the real reason it happened can maybe tell you if you feel you can forgive him and you both fix whatever it was that was wrong.
Post # 9
Sometimes a kiss is just a kiss. Especially if the other person initiated after your SO was a little more flirty than was appropriate, etc. It happens.
However — moving to someone’s bed takes action. There are many steps involved beyond just the kiss. That alone would make it harder for me to forgive. Though I’m also a big believer in the fact that people don’t cheat unless they want to cheat. You never put yourself in that situation unless you’re open to the idea.
Post # 10
Do what you feel is best. Don’t let strangers on the internet make up your mind.
Post # 11
I feel like you should postpone the engagement, but still be together. See how things go and if he gains your trust back and your sure he’ll never do it again, then move forward. I feel like he should be responsible for his actions and being drunk isn’t an excuse, but everybody makes mistakes.
I just hope he realizes how much he has hurt you. Nobody should endure this from their fiance.
Post # 12
Sorry but i am against all cheaters 🙁 I would leave.
Post # 13
look on the bright side, he realized he was wrong, he could’ve slept with her right? Depends on the guy but i don’t believe in once a cheater always a cheater. Give him another chance if you think can trust him again.
Post # 14
@kerpao: I mean . . . kinda. Would you be saying look on the bright side if he slept with her but didn’t have an orgy? Or slept with her but it was only that night?
Post # 16
Drunk, schmunk. How to deal with a fiance who made out with another girl? That’s easy: leave.
It takes about 5 seconds to think about it. If you were in love with someone, and respected that person, would you ever even consider doing that? No. It’s not possible.
Find someone who actually cares about you. As for him? Bed. Made. Lie.