- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
can i just vent…(this is so long, sorry!)
i have a guy friend who is 43 years old and devorced. he is a friend but not so much of a friend friend, just someone i talk to or see once in a while. when i was single i would talk to him to get male perspective on dating.
when he’s going out with someone he disappears but now he’s single I guess he has too much spare time. Lately he keeps texting me asking about me and my bf, and when the wedding will be. I can’t be bothered but he’s persistant so I reply with a joke because I feel its none of his business.
Obviously he seems to think my bf is not committed, he seems to think we should be engaged or living together by now. (We been together for 1.5 years, don’t live together just because, we have plans for the future). I just haven’t or don’t feel like explaining to him about our relationship. because I feel he’s just being nosey, and he’s not a friend we would invite for our wedding…
also, I feel like, what does HE know about relationships anyway! He had been married before (on papar due to visa circumstances as he put it), towards the end of the relationship he had been sleeping with another or multiple women because his “wife” would withdraw sex as he put it. He explained he needs sex at all times. It doesn’t sound like he tried to work things out. After the divorce 5 years ago he keeps pursueing younger women in their 20’s because they are more suitable for marriage and having children(his words). He has had many short relationships with those younger women in the past 2 years I have known him. While some women are interested in serious relationship with him, he seems to go for ones that are unavailable for their looks and youth or whatever. AND he claims he wants to get married so he’s looking for the one.
So today, he texts me asking about the usual, my relationship, I got annoyed and pointed out why he thinks he wants to get married and how he’s been using women while pursuing unavailable chicks. He responds with a SUPER LONG email saying he should be frank and tell me how women tend to stick around and waste her years on a man who doesn’t commit.
I probably shouldn’t have gone pointing out what I did in the first place(that has been on my mind for long but I’ve never told him before). I’m letting this one go and won’t answer his future inquiry on my relationship…
anyway, ugh. what would you do?