(Closed) How to deal with a whole party of Bridesmaidszillas??!?!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do about my bridesmaidzillas?
    Say nothing to them : (4 votes)
    21 %
    Say thanks but no thanks to their suggestions : (12 votes)
    63 %
    Sit them down and discuss with them they're ALREADY stressing me out : (3 votes)
    16 %
    Kick them out of the party altogether : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1848 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Stop talking about the wedding to them!  It is way too early to worry about dresses, so stop discussing the dresses, the plans, and put them on a need to know basis. 


    Go kicking out family members and they will have ammo against you for the next 35 years at every family event.  Did you ask for input on the dresses?  Did you ask each girl PRIVATELY what her budget is?  Are you demanding expensive shoes and other accessories?

    If it gets really bad with the “I would NEVER do that at my wedding” stuff, calmly tell them you realize you have different wedding visions and you would appreciate it if they would respect your decisions.

    If  you cut the wedding chatter with them, hold off on the dresses for awhile and talk about everything but the wedding they should chill out a bit.


    Post # 4
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Don’t invite them to planning events like to the florist or venue or share details, let your brother tell his sisters to shut up. Have a standard response. Such as this is what Fi and I like for Our wedding and we already picked and finalized our choices.

    Post # 5
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It’s not one of your poll options, but just stop discussing wedding details with them. Say you haven’t decided yet, and if they give opinions just nod your head and make non-comittal comments. Or say that you want it to be a surprise. But clearly discussing your ideas with them just leads into conversations you don’t want to have, so not discussing your ideas with them is the best way to go.

    Post # 7
    418 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    You’re likely having too much conversation with EVERYONE. If you have a specific vision for your wedding, let it be YOUR vision and just carry it out. All your bridesmaids need to know is when the wedding is, what they need to wear and what time to show up.

    Post # 8
    9601 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yeah I would stop talking to them about it or give very general answers.  It’s way too early for them to even be involved if you don’t want them to be.

    They don’t need to come with you to every appointment and be there every step of the way.  You can do it yourself and with your vendors.  Just go look at bridesmaids dresses with them later on or maybe your own dress too (they don’t even have to come to this!).  Let them plan the shower and/or bachelorette.  They don’t need to do much other than those things and then show up that day.

    Just say “I’ll let you know when we make a decision”

    Post # 9
    5242 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Just do what you want and dont tell them about all your decisions. Thats what I did..I planned everything on my own and just let everyone know slowly what I had already planned so then they couldnt put there two sense in cause it was already done

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