Post # 62
As an American, I’d like to tell you that we’re all pretty tacky and awful ourselves. And LOUD! And opinionated. And we misuse the word “awesome…” ignore us :oP
Seriously, though, don’t worry about those who say you’re being tacky. Yes, it’s considered tacky in the USA to have a cash bar, but lots of people still do it. I’d never get up and leave a wedding because someone did something I didn’t agree with (cash bar, honeymoon jar, roast pig on a spit… it’s your wedding- not mine!). Anyway, it’s a cultural difference, so they don’t really have the authority to speak on it 🙂
Post # 63
just dont invite them if you know thats how its going to get , I know I wouldnt
Post # 64
I have to say — I’d have to know the people for 100% sure, but I’m on the side of not inviting the people who trashed your other friend’s wedding. I get that they’re close friends, and perhaps they’re even very nice people who just made one or two bad decisions when too drunk. But bad decisions have consequences, and it is COMPLETELY fair for one of the consequences for their actions to be that they don’t GET the chance to act a fool at your wedding. It’s a shame to not include these friends — and yeah, you may lose the friendship — but you don’t need to be worried on YOUR WEDDING DAY that you’re going to have to babysit your drunk-ass friends to make sure they don’t do any damage.
The only way that I would even think about relaxing my judgment here is if they spend the next few months GROVELING at your friend’s feet, write a complete formal apology to the venue and to the couple’s families, and of course pick up the entire tab for the damage they caused. Sounds unlikely with that crew.
Post # 65
its odd though. here in mexico people like to drink…a lot. and at weddings its always open bar. yet ive never seen rowdy behaviour at any wedding ive been to here…or indeed at any event. whereas back in the UK i might be concerned about it
er ok. i take back my outrage – newcastle has a bad rep even with english people (and im from london so there is the infamous south-north rivalry so we dont think much of them :P). its just when i go out…its to a nice bar, drinking prosecco or cocktails with friends. and we dont end up falling over/peeing in streets/all the other horrendous things that england is unfortunately known for
my venue comes with free security guys/ so whilst any troublemakers wouldnt get invited, if anyone starts to damage something then theyll be escorted out immediately (with a taxi called since its kind of far from everything)
Post # 67
to answer your question, this probably around 6…we are having a wedding of about 75 people. I am just not going to invite them. T here are 2 people that we have to invite, but they respect Fiance and he will be talking to them beforehand
wow that wedding soun ds crazy!! 3-midnight is a long time where people must have been doing a lot of drinking!
Thanks, I am seeing your point where you oddly do have some more control. I didn’t think to talk to the bartenders about no shots, no doubles/triples (do people order triples?! lol)