- 13 years ago
- Wedding: November 2021
My bridal party was meant to be simple: a matron of honor, a maid of honor and a bridesmaid. All three have a special meaning in my life and our couple as well and I wanted each of them to have a special title and share those moments with me.
Well back in February I went dress shopping with my aunt in law. Her grandaughter was with her and she is 12 (will be 13 by the time of the wedding). Since she was and I knew she wasn’t as interested in the bridal stuff i told her she should ask to try some of the bridesmaid dresses there.
Well she did, and my aunt in law ended up spending more time with her than with me at times. I kept it cool because I needed her help (at the time I was condisering the option of getting my dress made and she used to be a seamstress).
Well at some point she asked me who my bridesmaid were. I told her and then she said: "Oh but it would be so great to have D (her grandaughter) be one too." Well D was right there, I felt trapped and all I could say was "Well D, would you like to be one?"
I wish I had had the reflex to just say NO.
I don’t mind her being in the bridal party, but then again, I want my 3 bridesmaid to be special. I know they’ll be there to help me. I can’t see D bringing anyhelp. I haven’t talked with either the aunt or the grandmother. Yeah I’m playing the ostrich with her head in the ground right now.
I do not know what to do in all honesty.
Given that I was stupid enough to ask her I feel like I should find something for her to do but I just don’t know what. Any title I could give her or idea of what she could do?
She is a bit old to be a flower girl and we are not having flowers thrown around anyway.