(Closed) How to deal with an unplanned bridesmaid?

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can make her a junior bridesmaid.  I’ve heard of this, but I don’t really know what role she would have in the wedding other than just walking out behind the bridesmaid…

Post # 5
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

What about an acolyte? 

Post # 7
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

Programs is what I was going to suggest too- I had my cousins do that

Post # 8
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I was a junior bridesmaid for my aunt’s wedding a long time ago.  It was just an honorary title to make sure I wasn’t left out.  I had no official duties, nor did I desire to have any.

Post # 9
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Oh dear, you got sucked into the family guilt one-two punch.  Take it as a lesson learned and be prepared for other whammies because it’s bound to happen. 

Don’t you find it absolutely funny that your wedding is the time that everyone feels they have a right to insert some sort of priority.

She’s pretty young, so I think you can get away with letter her wear a similar colored dress and assigning her a duty (like programs or guest book/gift table), but not having her walk or stand up at the ceremony w/ the "real" BMs. 

But stand strong!  Don’t be forced to include her in the primary things if you don’t want to, like the shower, pictures, etc.  You can always use her age as an excuse.

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