- 7 years ago
My best friend and I have always said we would be each other’s maid of honor. When I first told her I was engaged, she seemed excited for me and joked about how she was nervous to give her speech.
I really haven’t talked to her about planning at all, I’ve just told her that eventually, I’ll put up a private album on Facebook for certain people to see.
A lot of my friends that she doesn’t know are getting engaged and planning weddings right now too. I’ve been helping a few of them with their plans, and there was one girl whom I love to death but she was starting to get on my nerves with her planning. She acted like it was the end. of. the. world. when she couldn’t have everything she wanted, even though she is planning a wedding in only 3 months–many venues are booked by then, dresses have to be purchased off-the-rack, etc.
I was venting to my best friend about this particular girl and how I was annoyed by her freaking out over small things that aren’t going to matter. My best friend assumed I was annoyed by her because “She’s getting something I want sooner than I am,” i.e. her wedding is before mine. I said “No, I really don’t think that’s the case, I’m annoyed because she’s making ME stressed out by freaking out over every small detail.” My best friend said “Well it’s probably the underlying issue.”
I again said, “No, because there are other people who are planning their weddings and I’m not annoyed by them. It’s just this particular girl.” And then she said, “Well it’s hard to see someone get something you want. Like with you and (FI), I have no reason to be mad at you when you talk about wedding planning but it’s just hard.”
I’m really confused by her statement because I really have not talked to her about wedding plans. I told her I was engaged, she was happy for me, and I told her I would eventually put up a private album on Facebook. That was it! But it sounds like she thinks every time I talk to her I’m bombarding her with my wedding plans. Also when I told her I was engaged she seemed very willing to help with plans, and said that one of her friends recently got married and she helped her out quite a bit.
So I guess I don’t really know what to do. As my Maid/Matron of Honor I want her to be involved in my planning and be there to help me out, but I don’t want her to resent me for it. Any suggestions?