How to deal with family/friends who've gone off the deep end into conspiracies?

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 31
4060 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Ugh. This is my life. My mom is a HARDCORE anti-vaxxer and conspiracy theorist. I haven’t spoken to her in 2 years because she is so freaking crazy. But my 19 year old daughter is still in contact with her occasionally and a couple nights ago she sent my daughter this big tirade and links to websites regarding those avatar cartoons everyone made on Facebook a month or so ago. From what we could discern from her ranting and from the websites “They” are using those FB avatars to steal our likenesses and make robots of us? Or something. It was pretty disturbing for my poor daughter who just wants a normal, loving grandma. And yeah, she is super into the whole Bill Gates eugenics thing. It all just hurts my heart because I wish I had a normal mom who loved me and my kids. And she’s actually really intelligent and well read. She’s just been very isolated for the last decade or so due to some shitty life circumstances and now her insanity is causing everyone to distance from her more and so she’s spiraling and getting worse. I wish she would just somehow snap out of it. So, anyway, solidarity, Bees. 

Post # 32
2924 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think the isolation is really getting to a lot of otherwise healthy and neurotypical people. They’re feeling so many negative emotions and can’t offset them with the usual feel good activities. Finding these conspiracy theories gives them the sense of being in a special community and maybe eases some of the disconnection from others.

I also think many want to believe this is all some giant hoax to justify selfish behavior like refusing to wear masks or to socially distance from others.

Post # 33
990 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I just wanted to add with

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@desertgypsy‘s thought that I too used to think only loony, uneducated nutjobs believed this stuff, but I am learning first-hand that it’s not true. My relative is college educated, held “normal” jobs, and is very loving and smart. It’s like some sort of sickness has seeped in and it’s heartbreaking to watch.

I just wanted to throw that out there that not everyone believing this is a hillbilly idiot. I wish that was the case as it would do less damage. But this kind of thinking preys on the vulnerable, and right now we have more vulnerable people than ever who are lonely, isolated, and scared. It’s probably easier to accept this is a conspiracy in some ways as that would mean we could control the situation. A pandemic with no cure seems much scarier.

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