(Closed) how to deal with family not invited to the DW

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow. Keep it immediate family and closest for the DW, then invite half the country to thr 2nd reception. Why in God’s name should you have to consult all & sundry about your wedding plans? It’s your wedding.

Post # 4
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are doing a DW with 8 guests. We sent out a STD for our hometown reception and put in a note that said we are having a privite ceremony in the Bahamas on Nov 5 please STD for our hometown reception!

Post # 5
2641 posts
Sugar bee

Are they questioning that some aunts and uncles are invited, but not all?  Are they questioning the second reception?  You can do the DW the way you want, but my concern is, are they trying to suggest that the other family not invited to the DW, will not go to the 2nd reception?

Post # 6
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I think that if you have a large family, you have to do an all-or-nothing approach. I’m sure everyone is aware that you’re closer to one or two aunts than to all of them, but imagine it from their perspective — most people think “wedding” and assume everyone will be there. I can’t imagine someone being totally okay with their sister being invited to your wedding, but not them.

I would say to keep it very small at your DW (parents, immediate family only) and then have your reception with “everyone.”

Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with oyster.  You should either invite all aunts and uncles or none to the wedding.

Post # 8
13101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m with oyster and Moose1209 – with family you really have to follow the all-or-none rule (ie, all aunts and uncles or no aunts and uncles).  This isn’t a situation where you can play favorites.  If your venue doesn’t allow you to invite all of your aunts/uncles then they’ll all just have to wait to celebrate with you at the home-town reception.

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