- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
I am seriously getting annoyed. So annoyed to the point of being worried I might say something I will regret.
I am good friends with this one girl for some time now (I think over 4 years). We get along great, I was Bridesmaid or Best Man at her wedding, I like her husband etc. But there is one thing that drives me crazy lately and I just don’t know how to behave. This girl is a serious hypochondriac, I am not even lying to you. She is coming up with new “illness” almost on weekly basis. In last year she had probably over 20 different doctors. It all started when she got an Xray or MRI (don’t remember which one) of her head and they found small mass in her head. It was scary, everyone worried about her and was paying attention to her. I was over at her house almost every day cheering her up and supporting her through that. Fortunately results came in and it was all good. No cancer or anything dangerous. She just has to get a test done every 6 months to make sure it is not growing.
And everything went back to normal, for about a month. Since then she comes up with everything she possibly can. So far she went to doctor for ear infections, sinus infection, bronchitis, something “popping” in her knees, back pain, hormonal tests, intestine disorder or something along these lines, cysts on her ovaries because “it hurts” and immediately came up to conclusion that she is not fertile and keeps crying about it and looking into adoption, possibility of cancer in her stomach, foot pain, moles on her body, appendix, gall blader, kidney stones, and as of yesterday – arthritis.
Now, before you jump on my throat – I was worried for her and helped her look for doctors for about half of those “ilnesses” I mentioned above. But when she went to over 10 different doctors for the same test and I asked her why, she said it is because they did not diagnose her with anything. Well, duh! None of the tests for possible things above came up positive. NONE OF THEM. She calls in sick to work at least twice each month and stays home multiple days at a time demanding I come over and give her company because she is ill, however she never got diagnosis from her doctor. Her work gave her two official warnings due to attendance because she has no doctor note to submit (doctors refuse to give you note if you are healthy), and she expects me to write a letter to her manager and explain why she is absent. I did it for her few times, but it got worse. Now whenever I don’t want to come over she is mad at me and gives me silent treatment.
I am starting to suspect that she loved the attention she received when they found small mass in her head and now she is chasing that feeling. Her husband is pretty fed up with that too, especially with constant medical bills that keep coming from doctor’s offices. The other day she even went to ER because she was convinced she has appendicitis. Turns out she is full of crap. Like, literally – she was constipated. And the worst is that when I am sick (for example last Thursday I passed another kidney stone at work) she shrugs it off. It is this type of conversation with her:
Her – how you doing?
Me – Alright but ugh, I passed another kidney stone at work. It hurt like hell. Is it Friday yet?
Her – That sucks. Well, doctor you recommended me to said she won’t schedule me for hormonal test, so I am thining of changing the doctors.
I struggle to recognize true illness through her BS. She has no diagnosis from doctors. She even went to my doctor who I adore and I know is great at her profession. She has no visible symptoms. It is so obvious she is putting up a show (for example, playing with her dog one moment, curling on a couch next or saying that she can’t eat because of her stomach (she also thinks she has ulcers), then her husband comes home with pizza and she eats whole box).
I just don’t know anymore. She is kind of my only friend at the moment and I do like her company, but this is getting really tough to deal with.
Now that I typed all that, I am looking for your opinions. Is she bullshiting for attention? Is she seriously sick and I am being selfish, inconsidered human being?