How to deal with insecurity in anticipation of wedding day

posted 1 year ago in Dress
Post # 2
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2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Rachael1 :  I felt pretty insecure leading up to my wedding, I was mainly worried about how I would look as I have gained some weight in the last year or two, was working to lose it but wasn’t where I wanted to be when the wedding came. 

The day of my wedding I was so happy and excited, I didn’t even really give AF. It was a really special day and being around our family and friends helped ease my anxiety.

You are going to look and feel beautiful and special! 

Post # 3
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Hey there’s no reason to get caught up in all the details even though I completely understand how easy that is! I’ve been there! It’s so important to take a minute and remember your wedding is about you and your SO. It doesn’t matter if your day involves 50lbs of tulle and a bundle of roses or is held at Burning Man- all that matters is that it is meaningful for you. 

Maybe you can spend some time pampering yourself, whatever that means to you, in the next month so you can feel like a strong, confident you! For me a haircut and soak in the tub with some face masks makes me feel so glamorous and helps recenter me when I feel inadequate.

As for the dress, it’s not over yet! In fact with a month that’s plenty of time! Darling Husband and I eloped last October and I ordered a dress from Spell and the Gypsy which arrived within 4 days basically ready to go. We just had a big reception and vow renewal for our friends and family a few weeks ago and I also got super insecure my original dress wasn’t bridal enough so literally a week before the date I bought a bodysuit off BHLDN and BHLDN skirt off Poshmark. I went with a style I know looks good on me casually (bodysuit and flowing skirt) and it fit perfectly! Worst case you can always buy a few items from a bridal ready to wear store like Lulu, Spell or BHLDN and then just return them if they don’t work! You still got options, Bee!

Post # 5
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Newbee

I can completely relate to your tendency to compare. If it makes any difference at all, I looked at your other posts and I think your dress is absolutely beautiful and you have a stunning figure. You will look amazing in it!! I think it might be hard to imagine now, but I really believe that once you have your dress on with accessories, your hair the way you like it, your makeup done the way you feel most confident in, you might feel a little different. So in the meantime, since your dress is pretty much a done-deal (and it’s a perfect done-deal), maybe focus on other things that would make you feel beautiful.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Rachael1 :  Bee, girl….I FEEL YOU!  I’m one month away myself and all I can think about is how I’m going to look in my dress….make that two dresses!  Yep, I had nearly the same issue as you did except my first custom made dress finally came and I loved it but I now have the dlilemma of what to do with the backup dress.  My girlfriend convinced me to wear both, which at the time, I thought was a good idea but now I’m worried that I’m going to look ridiculous wearing two wedding dresses!  Plus I’m worried about guests having a good time, whether they’ll talk behind my back about how crappy this whole affair is.  Is my choice of DJ gonna work out?  OMG the groomswomen are wearing the same dress while my bridesmaids are wearing different dresses. Girl…..its a mess…..of caring about what other people think!  Plus I ABHOR being the center of attention!  I’m hoping my moment of zen happens soon….or maybe I should start looking into hiring an actress to play me.  She’d probably wear the heck out my wedding dress!

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Rachael1 :   Nah, its just I’ve never had to pick a dj before.  I’ve pretty much planned this wedding myself and I’m still dealing with all the details….I’m praying that it all goes well!

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