(Closed) how to deal with invited wedding crashers? *kind of a vent*

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

That is horrible thing to be going through. First the lost of your mother and second the lost of the relationship with your mothers mother. There are many things that you can do. Either ignore the situation and see her at your wedding, ignore the situation and invite her to the wedding, talk to her and invite/exclude her from your big day. which one to choose? If i were you I would go ahead and have a heart-felt talk with her then decide if its really that important for her to be there or not. Im not quiet sure how your with relationship with her was in the past. You have to be the one to determine what role she has played in your life. Would it be important to you to have her in your big day. I dont want you to be surprised/mad or let it ruin your day because she showed up. e.i. uninvited guest.  You sent her an invitation so she might think that she is invited even though you dont want her to go.

The sooner you get this situation resolved the better.

Best of luck!

Post # 4
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4824 posts
Honey bee

I would return the email with your one last “say”

I would tell her what you told us. That you don’t know where she is coming from. That your mom’s stuff is safe in a storage unit so the bank wouldnt send it to the garbage.  You are sorry she feels that way, but you are hurt and as a result that until she apologizes she is not welcome at your wedding. You want only people that love and support you and your relationship and until she shows otherwise, she is not one of those people.

Then after that, since you said you dont care about a relationship, I would not respond to anymore letters or emails that are negative at all. I would also tell your venue that if they see her to please let her know kindly that she is not allowed.

And I am so sorry for the situation. Weddings make people really emotional for good and bad.

Post # 5
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@lefeymw: agree with everything she said.

It never ceases to amaze me the craziness weddings bring out in people

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