Post # 1
Member
35 posts
Newbee
I have a Matron of Honor that I choose because I’m really close to her and I thought she will help me with the wedding planning. Eversince I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor she didn’t seem to give interest with the planning. So I have to do everything by myself. All she cares about herself. That she has to loose weight and look good!
Also, when I’m looking for my wedding dress she didn’t even give effort to come so instead I asked my Best Man to come with me. I know, its really weird and awkward, but I’m glad my Best Man was so down to earth to come.
How can I explain to my Maid/Matron of Honor to do her part or atleast give some inputs?
Post # 3
Member
1056 posts
Bumble bee
My question would be does she know what her responsibilities are?? If not then you need to have a talk with her and mention to her what you expect from her. And if she is not willing to meet what you want then you should consider another person. Being a Matron or even a Maid of Honor is a HUGE responsibility and a big compliment to that person. My Matron of Honor (my best friend) has jumped into the wedding planning and sent me emails galore about things from the moment I told her that we were just looking at rings and I told her then that she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Minutes later I had an email from her! LOL I have been a bridesmaid many times and a Maid/Matron of Honor so I know what I’m talking about.
But I realize I’m lucky! You really need to talk to your friend and express your concerns and tell her it hurt you when she didn’t go w/you dress shopping. Sorry but the Best Man isn’t going to be able to bustle up the dress on the day of the wedding or help you in the bathroom. SHE needs to get out of it being about her and focus on YOU!
Good luck!
Post # 4
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299 posts
Helper bee
I agree with yearns4goood. I would talk to her about why you picked her for the honor and how much you need her help!