(Closed) How to deal with my alcoholic Aunt

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think talking to both Aunt and Cousin will be of help in the situation. Be prepared for her to come either partially drunk or completely drunk. Hopefully though they will repect your wishes. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t really have any advice but good luck – that can’t be a fun position to be in. I hope it goes well and she can respect your wishes and get herself the help she needs!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had to do the same thing with BOTH my uncles on my mom’s side. They both have drinking and drug problems. I told them that if they caused a problem due to the addiction problems that they would be expelled from my life. I’m having a BYOB wedding, and since they don’t have money (since neither really work, my grandpa is the enabler and doesn,t want to be, but doesn’t want conflict) they won’t really be able to buy much. If you are having open bar or something along those lines, cut everyone off at a certain hour. Say its because no matter what, you want EVERYONE to remember this night and want EVERYONE to get home safe! 

 

You have to be straight forward and precise in what you are saying to her. Tell her you are taking measures so that it won’t look like she is the target to the decisions you are making… and hope she won’t disappoint you.

And since this is only 1 person in your family… do an intervention… Maybe it’ll work, maybe it won’t… Either way, you need to make yourself heard

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

By the way: My uncles understood what I was saying, for me it wasn’t too bad of a conversation… but since the wedding hasn’t passed yet… I can’t tell you how the wedding went.

Best of luck! 🙂

Post # 8
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s tough. I have a couple of hard drinkers on my mom side, all of them get loose lips but there are several of them who caused issues at family events. I don’t think you are asking too much. However depending on your aunts state, like if she get sick if she doesn’t have a little alcohol in her system may be a bad idea to invite her.

I have on person like that and sadly I don’t think I’m going to issue and invite. I plan on talking to two of uncles and making clear that they aren’t allowed to drink at my wedding. I’m not joking I’m going to give their pics and have my wedding planner point them out to the staff. While some people may think it’s bridezilla of me they get agressive and I don’t want them to cause a big headache. If they are offended and don’t come, I’m not going to lie I will miss them a little. But I don’t feel I’m asking too much for them to be sober at my wedding when it’s clear they can’t handle their alcohol.

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