- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
One of FI’s groomsmen, Z, recently passed away from complications related to Type I (aka Juvenile) diabetes. He was 26 years old; it was completely unexpected and very sudden…one day he’s sending Fiance wacky text messages and the next he’s gone. Suffice it to say that the past few weeks have been very difficult for our entire group of friends.
Now that the dust has settled a bit, I’m wondering how best to handle Z’s absence at the wedding. Fiance announced from the beginning that there would be no replacement for Z in the wedding party, which I totally support. At Z’s memorial service, his family asked for donations to the Juvenile Diabetes Research Association, so a donation is one thing we are considering.
My question is this: how do we appropriately acknowledge / remember our friend, without making it a big focus and upsetting anyone? In particular, without upsetting Fiance — I know that he will feel Z’s absence but, without diminishing the importance of this loss at all, I also want him to be able to be happy on our wedding day.
Thanks for any advice or suggestions.