(Closed) How to deal with rude/mean friend :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How old is she?  She sounds really young.  

Some people are not as supportive as others when it comes to weddings.  How are you other friends?

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Cut her out of your life. I’ve had “friends” like that and I just stopped answering their phone calls. Once you don’t have to dread talking to her you’ll feel so much better! 

Post # 5
Member
7680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well for a start there is no way in 100 years I would ask her to be Maid/Matron of Honor or bridemaid! They need to be people who support you.

Perhaps invite her to the wedding, depending how much you want to stay friends with her. I’m puzzled why you would want to be friends with her at all.

Post # 7
Member
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This is not a friend.  If someone insulted me constantly, I would cut them out of my life.

Post # 9
Member
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have a group of people who I also known since we were four cause we lived in the same neighborhood, went to little league and other things, and eventually kindergarten however I remain friends with the ones who I get along and like. All the others I see at random events because my family still in contact with theirs.

Stop subjecting yourself to her horrible behavior. You are embarking on a time that should be your happiest. So the first step is picking up the phone calling this Sally telling her you don’t appreciate her hurtful comments and you are no longer going want to be in contact. Then delete delete deleter, her phone number, her from social net working sites. Then never think about her again. Knowing someone since you were four(who sounds like she has been bullying you) isn’t a basis for a friendship.

Post # 11
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11390 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

It doesn’t matter who has been around the longest. It matters who treats you like a REAL friend would, with respect! She sounds like a 12 year old. Cut her out of your life, NOW! Move on and be happy with your upcoming marriage! 🙂

Post # 12
Member
65 posts
Worker bee

@Roxykitten: 

“I dont know how to put her down easy… I know she isnt nice to me but I hate hurting people… It almost makes me sick, I dont know what to do!?”

Standing up for yourself isn’t being mean. You can be firm and still nice. It took me many years to realize this.

Post # 13
Member
14660 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Screw putting her off easy. Just tell her to f** off and you dont want to associate with people who are bitches. 

Post # 14
Member
11390 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Roxykitten:  Stop taking her calls, change your #, unfriend her on facebook and when she comes over don’t answer the door.

Post # 16
Member
7680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Roxykitten:  “I dont know how to tell her that I really dont want her in my wedding unless she changes her additude… I dont know what to do?!”

My advice is this: don’t tell her unless she asks. Pick your bridal party (not including her). If and when she asks if she’s a Bridesmaid or Best Man, say “no”. If she queries it, say sorry but I’m closer to these other girls these days. (I don’t think anything’s to be gained from attributing it to her behvaiour). If she gets upset, well bad luck. Better to have an upset girl outside the bridal party, then a b1tch in the bridal party.

And don’t try to say anything like you will let her in if she changes her attitude. She has shown her true colours for the last 19 years. Letting her in on the promise that she’ll change, is just asking for trouble.

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